[0:00]Is it normal for a married man to retreat to solitude when conversations get tough for months? What's happening in that solitude? He would go into the basement. And you'll have no interaction during that time? Nope, not even two words. The only place I can hide in the house with a woman I no longer wanna be married to, is in my basement.
[0:25]Period.
[0:29]You ready for the next question? Because when a man is in the house and he does not want to talk to the person he lives with, it is a problem. We gonna go to childhood, we gonna go to all these different things, but maybe his problem is you. You lucky that we almost that we I'm just saying. Next. Come, baby. And I, no. No, no, and no, I'm up, yes. Now, she said that he was in there for months. We not gonna excuse that because we as women don't get a chance to lock ourselves in a basement for months and not be able to talk to you. We still have to show up as a wife, right? I still gotta show up as a wife, as a confidant, as a friend, as a therapist, as a cook, as a sex slave, and everything else, I gotta show up, right? I can't sit and play on games for no months. So therefore, y'all men need to get that under control. When your wife is talking to you about a tough conversation and a concern, stop hearing it as white noise and hear it as a woman that God assigned to you and treat her the way that you're supposed to treat her. So we're not gonna keep on excusing this. We're not gonna be telling women it's because he don't wanna be married to you no more. It's because he has not developed the capacity that he needs to develop that is his responsibility. Y'all want us to play therapist and show y'all how to be men in these relationships. Come on, figure it out. No, no, no, no, no, no. Clap it up, clap it up. I love it, clap it up. Gotta teach them. Yes. I agree with you, which further drives my point home. It sounds like that man quit, and a lot of times, men don't leave the relationship, they quit on it, so you leave. Cause guess what that allows me to do? Blame her when she leaves. She broke up my family. She took the kids. She this and she that. I get to not be the bad guy because I made you leave, because I quit. I stopped fighting, I stopped trying, I stopped arguing, I stopped communicating. I didn't wanna go to therapy. I went to the basement and I waited for you to get fed up enough to leave me, because when you leave me, I get to cry to my friends and say, "She don't understand me. It's not a safe space," and it gives me that sympathy card. I'm telling you, I know somebody that's quitting on a relationship when I see it, and everything they said just further highlights my point. A man that cares, just a little bit, would say more than two words to you. Yeah. And so I
