This is how you come back to you | Mel Robbins

[0:00]When's the last time you felt like yourself? Not mom, not the boss, not an employee, not the spouse, not the helper. Just you. Because even though you're running all over the place, you're still in there. You're just buried under the to do list, and the pressure, and the constant motion, and all the fires you got to put out, and all the things you need to do. Well, I want to tell you the three simple things that I do that always bring me back to myself at home, on the road, wherever I am, no matter how busy life can be. Number one, take yourself for a walk. You don't have to go for 10,000 steps. You don't have to break a sweat and make this a workout. This is just taking yourself for a walk because that's what you do for you. And that one walk, it's going to give you more energy, it'll improve your mood, it'll help your focus, and it will boost your health over the long term. The second habit that is on my list that always instantly makes me feel like myself again, fit in friends. Here's a trick you can steal from me. Whenever I'm in the car and I'm driving, I keep a list of people that I haven't talked to in a while, and it's not the same people every week I rotate it. Last week, I was running errands. I had exactly eight minutes from the grocery store to get back to my house, and I thought, you know, I wonder what Lisa's up to. And the old me would have said, oh, no, no, no, you don't have enough time. I thought, you know, screw it. I've got eight minutes. I'm just going to fire off the call. So I called Lisa, we caught up, I felt connected, I felt like me, I fit in my friend. That's how you do it. Make it happen, because it matters. And the third habit that I have in the middle of a busy life, whenever I'm traveling, that makes me feel like me, tuck yourself in. You need something that you're doing to signal, okay, days over. And for me, what does that look like? How do I tuck myself in? Oh, number one, a bath. I don't care if I'm at home or a hotel room. I run hot water. I slip into the tub. Oh, and I just breathe. You know what I love about it? It immediately slows my thoughts, my nervous system. It's like the pace of life goes... Maybe for you, tucking yourself in means, okay, I'm going to stretch, or I'm going to journal, or I'm going to turn on this beautiful, quiet, angelic music before bed. Whatever it is, protect it. When you rest, you're not doing nothing. You're doing something essential. You're taking care of you. You don't need life to slow down in order to feel grounded. You just need a few habits that travel with you.