This Lecture On The Law of Forgiveness Can Change Your Life

[0:00]the law of forgiveness. The law of forgiveness simply says that you are mentally healthy to the degree to which you can freely forgive and forget grievances against you. is the single most important determinant of whether or not you are a fully integrated, fully functioning adult human being. Because the tendency to blame and to hold grudges is a childlike pathological tendency that is possessed by all people who are mentally ill. Now you accept that as true. There's four people that you have to forgive. Number one is forgive your parents. Most of our research shows that almost all of our adult problems trace back to being unwilling or unable to forgive our parents for something that they did that hurt us. Number two, is forgive others. Forgive everyone else. Forgive everyone who has ever hurt you in any way for anything, just let it go. Now, some people say, well, I can't forgive that person because what a terrible thing they did to me. Remember this, that forgiveness is perfectly selfish. Forgiveness has nothing whatever to do with the other person. It has only to do with your peace of mind and with your assuring your own mental integrity. Number three, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for every wicked, senseless, brainless, foolish, stupid thing you ever did. Because every single person has done wicked, senseless, brainless, foolish, ridiculous things, but forgive yourself 100%. The last part of this is if you have done something to hurt someone else, go and apologize. It's amazing how many lives are ruined year after year by people who do not have the intestinal fortitude, the guts, the courage to go and say, I'm sorry.