[0:00]Earl walked in on her long time boyfriend Sanjata having sex. But he says it didn't count because they were on a break. Earl forgave him and they got back together, but now she thinks he's up to no good again. You walked in on your boyfriend and he was having sex with another woman. Unfortunately, Steve, that's what it was. You know, but for me, it was more like we've been off for like six months. So I, not that I like think that it's okay, but I let it pass because I'm like technically we was not together at that time. And I was just like, whatever, it hurt my feelings a lot, you know, because. How did you walk in on him having sex with another one? Because so his birthday was a couple days coming up, and I was just like, okay, let me surprise him and just say happy birthday because he had came and found me at a event and been calling me, bugging me, begging to see me and stuff like that, and I wouldn't do it for a long time, for like five months. And so I said, let me go say happy birthday, but the surprise was on me. And he's I was getting ready to leave and he was like, no, don't leave, please don't leave. I want you to stay and I stayed at his event at that moment, and later on, I walked out of the room I was in to that. And so I was gonna go punch, but I didn't. I said, it's cool. I'm gonna let you have that, right? So then he tried to beg and be like, oh, I'm sorry, it wasn't even like that. You know, it's my birthday. I'm doing this and this and this and that. So I'm just like, whatever. And we kind of just started hanging out after that, you know, after. But I didn't not forgive him, cuz I ain't, I don't he right. I don't let him forget. Now, you guys get back together, right? So, technically, we just kept going. I didn't even say, yeah, we back together. But he started sleeping with him. Yeah. Yes. And uh, you found women's clothing in his house. I did after a while, like a month into that. I found like a skirt that definitely wasn't my size. You know, and some other little items. So I asked him about it. He talking about that's some old stuff that just popping up. I'm tripping and all this stuff. Now I'm told he recently forgot your birthday.
[2:26]So my birthday is really hard to forget, Steve. My birthday is 911, right? So we'll Yeah, that's tough out there. That's a tough one, right? So we wake up together, and then I I'm on the phone. I'm crying. I'm mad, kind of emotional. And he sleep and so he get out his sleep to start an argument with me about a phone conversation that he has nothing to do, you know, don't know nothing about. And then so after our argument, me and his like, he left, I didn't say nothing. We go our separate ways for the day. And it's like almost 11 o'clock at night. Here we go calling. I'm like, should I answer? I guess I can hear another excuse. Hello. He talking about happy birthday. At 11 o'clock at night. 11 o'clock at night, hour before my over. Like, okay. So He didn't get anything? Nope. He didn't even give you what he gave the other girl? Nope. No.
[3:33]All right, let's meet Sanjata.
[3:45]This is not community here. It ain't. Ma'am, ma'am.
[3:58]Sir, let go of her. Let go of her. Okay. Ma'am, step over here. Ma'am. You know, you can see why she's upset, right? I I can see it. But I I I don't understand it. You don't understand it? It's a little bit exaggerated. What's exaggerated? A lot of it. Well, tell me what is. I mean, can we sit down? What are we going to do? We standing up? Yeah, we're standing up. All right. Well, um, like I said, I mean, most of the story she got was, uh, perfect. But 40, 50 times, come on now. I don't have enough. How many times have you cheated on her? I haven't cheated on her in this past six months because this is what what we talk about. Yeah. In this past six months, none. None. How about before that, though? Before that, um, maybe once, maybe twice. Yeah. She thinks it's a lot more. I I can't even, I can't even say that. Did you forget her birthday? Didn't. You didn't. She said I called at 11. I I called right before the day. She didn't tell you how it started. How did it start? With chaos, you know, she was arguing with someone. Yeah, but I mean at the very least, you you know, if I roll over on my wife's birthday and she's laying right next to me. I go, oh, honey, happy birthday. Yeah, she she was up already arguing with someone. So, I mean, I had. So you couldn't, you couldn't fit it in. I'm a busy man. I I stay in the bay area.
[5:29]I stay in the bay. It costs a lot of money to stay. So, but how much is it cost to say happy birthday? It doesn't cost anything. Right. And I I did say it. At 11 o'clock at night. Okay. So, all right. How many women are going to be okay with that? Um, I'm sure I'm sure everyone. But every day is a birthday. You know what I'm saying? How did you feel when you're performing a sex act and she walks in on her? I mean, I I mean, that was that was.
[5:55]Yeah. Uh, but she then she then forgives you, you guys kind of like get back together in spoken kind of thing. And then she finds women's clothes in in your place. Okay. Well, I she doesn't, she's not describing the whole situation. I stay in my store. I have a store front. So I sell clothes, shoes. women's clothes? Yeah. So makes sense that you were clothes. Yeah.
[6:18]Now, not where you stay though. Do you do you love her? I love her. And you, do you see a future with her? Yes. And you see it where you won't be with anybody else? Yes. Yeah. Do you believe him? Hell no.
[6:39]Well, but what if he says yes, he he's made some mistakes. He's here and he passes, he because I said, what if he fails? What if he passes? He passes, he's not doing anything. Could you move forward? You pass that test. We got a lot of work to do. We got a lot of talking to do and you got a lot of commitment to make that and you gotta stand on that though for real. Because I'm not gonna keep letting the old play games with me.
[7:11]And Steve, I just want to be clear. He's talking about I'm nobody. He act like when we were taking that break. I was calling him to talk about let me get some of that.
[7:25]I didn't call you. I didn't ask for nothing. And I barely be giving you some now. I give you some. I give you some, but I don't do it like that. I I used to. Did you get, did you give him some last night? We did.
[7:42]You didn't have to dress me out like that. But Steve, let me tell you why because guess what? That really could be the last time because like I'm really tired and I'm not going to keep playing. And then if I'm coming on the show for you to embarrass me like that, then I really gotta go my separate way because I'm not, I'm not that person that you gonna keep on playing with. That's not me. You know what I'm saying? You just talked about another woman last night. Who? What are you talking about? He was talking about another woman. Steve. My our food got took, right? So we waiting on the food. He come back with the drinks. I'm like, okay, so where the food at? He talking about, oh, the food gone, somebody got it. It was a cute ass girl downstairs. I said, what that got to do with anything?
[8:31]I mean you were so so upset, you still sleeping with him. It was just a description. That was. Oh, Ariel came here and took a lot of I didn't even realize you took one. Um, since in a relationship with Sanjata, not on breaks, have you had sexual contact with any man besides him? You answered no. Since in a relationship with Sanjata, not on breaks, have you had sexual intercourse with any man besides him? You answered no. The results of your lie detector test came back the same and it came back that Ariel told the truth.
[9:15]I didn't ask for that though, but thank you though. It don't matter if you ask for that. You actually you did because when they told you to take a lie detector test, you said and they said, do you want to? Before I could say yes or no, you was like, yeah, why not? So let's see yours. Sanjata came here and took a lie detector test, and we asked him, since in the relationship with Ariel, not on breaks, have you had sexual contact with any woman besides her?
[9:43]He answered no. Since in the relationship with Ariel, not on breaks, have you had sexual intercourse with any woman besides her? He answered no. The results for his lie detector test is that it came back the same to each question and it came back that Sanjata told the truth.
[10:21]You still a ho.
[10:25]I appreciate that. But you still for the community. Why I'm the community? Cuz you are. I did. If you cared about me stay there like for real because you begged me to stay there. I was leaving. I didn't have to be there. I just tried to surprise you and say hi and happy birthday with a couple little cakes. And the surprise was on me and you didn't care. So my thing is this, if you care about somebody, you gonna remember they there. You care about somebody, you gonna be like, oh no, my girl there. Like, I'm not, I'm cool off that. You made sure that you entertained what you did to embarrass me. I didn't try to embarrass you. I had, and I still gotta do it. I understand that. But you should have made a choice cuz I didn't have to be there. You asked me to stay there. If I would have let you go that day, would I ever seen you again? You know, probably not. Okay. See, I got you, you understand? But look what I gotta go through now. I'm never forgiving you for that. I'm always gonna remember. You always gonna have to hear about it. So why are you even wanna deal with that? Cuz I'm not letting you go. I just want you. I want you. So what what I gotta deal with? I mean, hey, you're not listening because man, if a woman's telling me that, I'm like, okay, I'm out. I'm gonna remind you all the time. I mean, what you said till we 90, right? I told him when he I should since he keep taking all my youth away. I might as well wait till he like 90 since he like 20 years older to me, 80, 90 and leave his right there. So you go do what the hell you want. Okay. But that's not a good game plan. It's not, but no, I mean, you want to be happy in life and you don't want to be waiting years and years to exact revenge on anybody. You want to go out and enjoy life. Now, I I'll say this, since you've gotten back together in this relationship, he's been faithful. He's not fooling around with anybody. Yes. Um, Steve. Yeah. So he was right up the hill from my house though. playing around with females and stuff like that. Don't call me act like like we've been together all these days. And then you just don't pop up all of a sudden and I ain't heard from you and then I hear from you the next night. So my question to you again is if he doesn't make you happy, if he doesn't do the things that you expect out of a man when you're in a relationship, why do you stay? You right. I mean, if you're not happy, you should say, this is over. I'm going to find somebody who treats me better. And nobody's gonna judge you. You gotta do what's best for you. I'm not judging. But you're either leaving the stage with them or without them. What do you do? Well, the thing about it, like I told him, we on here. I'm still not gonna really be with you like that because I shouldn't have to come all the way up here to really be with somebody that keep playing games with me. I mean, we've been with him on some love and basketball stuff. We don't play basketball no more. So, I mean, you know, I understand. I'm I'm here for the long haul. If you, you know, if you want to rock with me, let's rock. Thank you, Steve. Nice meeting you. Nice meeting you.
[13:22]Carril's gonna be Ariel, you know what I'm saying? She's she's spirited. But at the same time, I love her. You know what I'm saying? She says what she feels and sometimes I, you know, the truth hurts a little bit. You know, I'm relieved. I'm really glad that he passed his lie detector test because I really did not think he did or would have, but it's still really emotional for me because like, this is personal to me. This is like, this is not a game and he still think that this is a game where he feel like I'm not gonna find nobody better than him, but like if you really care, like, just do what you gotta do and stop trying to play games. That's all.
