Why Unloved People Hate Themselves #shorts #selfcare

[0:00]What happens to a child who isn't loved properly? The child becomes filled with shame. It doesn't ask, what's wrong with my parents for not loving me adequately? It simply wonders in a forlorn way: What have I done wrong in order to have ended up on the receiving end of my parent's disapproval? At school, this kind of child might try seven times as hard as any other, to show that it's clever and good. Or else, a child may go down an antisocial route, as a desperate way of giving outward form to a feeling of badness it's tortured by inside. There is so sadly no way out from the burden of shame available either by trying to be extremely good or extremely bad. The only solution is to work against the grain of forgetting in order to perceive for the first time, an awful possibility: that one has done nothing wrong at all, that wrong was done to one.