你不是在跟一個人談戀愛，是在跟他們的神經系統談戀愛

[0:00]You're not getting into a relationship with a human being. You're getting in a relationship with their nervous system. And if their nervous system is wounded and iregulated or deregulated, then that's what you're getting in a relationship with. It's how someone perceives everything in the world. And if they're traumatized or if they have thin skin by every little thing that you say or do or don't do, that's the relationship you're getting into, not the person and how they look, but what's inside their nervous system and how they respond to their environment.