[0:00]One of our viewers have asked from us that how can I handle my sorrow of losing a loved one? And how can I handle the heartbreak, the sorrow of heartbreak?
[0:11]Well, first of all, I must say, a heartbreak or losing a loved one is one of the most hardest, uh, experiences that a human can undergo. Right? Because we have that mental bond and mental attachment within people. When that mental attachment is broken, we start to suffer, we start to cry, and we start to wail. So, there are some ways that you can get over this sorrow. So, this whole video is dedicated for all the people out there who are going through heartbreaks and who are experiencing tough times in their life. So, this video will I think this video will help you to give some have some light on your way. So, there are some ways and things that we can do to heal ourselves. But remember, this healing process takes time. It's like a wound, right? Wound is not healed in a in a day or two days or three days, it takes time, right? So, we have to be in a constant process of healing that wound. So, same goes with a heartbreak. So, what we can do to heal our heart from a heartbreak? Number one. If you need to cry, it's okay to cry. Remember that, right? There are some people and there are some people who are going through heartbreaks and they don't like to cry. They pretend to be they're okay. Right? They pretend to the world that they are okay and they are they have got over the problem. They smile but not inside. Remember if you need to cry, it's okay to cry, right? Go to a private place or go to your room and cry. It's okay because crying is one of the most natural way of, uh, removing the pressure that is building up inside your mind and inside your heart. So, it's okay to cry, especially for men. because men always try to hide their tears and they pretend to be their okay. But remember, men are also allowed to cry. Okay? So, if you need to cry and if you need to remove and release that pressure that is building inside, then it's not a problem of shedding a tear. Number two. You can find a person who you can share your pain and who you can share the, uh, sorrow and the pressure that is building inside you. Right? Well, you need to be wise when you choose this person. Why? Because there are some people out there who give hate comments and hateful comments to the person who cheated you. Right? When they give those hate comments and when they try to build up the hate within you, right? It is not good for you. It's not good for your mental health and it's not good for your physical health either. So, what you have to do, choose the person wisely and share your pain with him. Find a person who can share that sorrow. Right? That person can be your mother, your father, maybe you're one of your friends. And maybe one of your teachers or mentors, whoever it is. Find a person who keep listening to you without saying anything, without giving many advice to you. Find a person who keeps listening to you. Right? Find a person who you can share your pain that is building inside. That is the second step and number three. This is the most important thing that you need to practice. And this is one of the things that many people who are in relationships doesn't like to think about. And what is that? Our great teacher Supreme Buddha said, Sabbehi me piehi mana pehi nana bhava vina bhavoti abhi bhag pacha. What does that mean? Supreme Buddha said, always reflect and recollect in your mind that one day, that one day I have to be parted and separated from all the dear and agreeable people in my life.
[5:04]Isn't that the truth? Yes, it is that is the truth. But we don't like to think about that when people are in relationships. They will think it will ruin their relationship, it will ruin the bond between people. But in reality, it is not. Remember, when you think that I have to be separated one day, I have to be separated from this person that is that is sitting in front of me, the person who I love most. One day I have to be separated from this person. At least at the death. So, I have a little time to love this person. Give my love, my kindness, my attention, my compassion to this person. So, I must give this fullest love to this person. Remember, true love will never break your heart. That's amazing, isn't it? True love, when you love someone truly, if that person leaves you, you will never be heartbroken. But if you become attached to that person, if you are mentally too much attached to that person and that attachment is the thing that breaks your heart. That is why Buddha said, attachment brings the suffering to your life. So, remember true love will never break your heart, but the attachment does. Right? So, if you are curious about what is true love and what is attachment, there's another video that has done by us. About explaining the true love. So, you can check out that. So, remember, when you truly love someone, your heart will never be broken, right? So, what you have to think is always whenever you are possible, you need to think I have to be separated from this. This people around me. Right? So, when you're when your mind is get prepared to face that reality in the life, right?
[7:43]You will start to think, ah, this is what I was thinking about. Right? So, when you're when your mind is get prepared to face that reality in the life, right? You can be more confident, you can be more strong when you face that situation in real life. So, that is the thing that you have to always think about that. And also remember I told you heartbreak is like a wound. Remember if you need to heal this wound, you need to decrease the amount of touching it. Right?
[8:27]Now, I I don't say that you need to forget forget the person. Right? You cannot forget the person. But you can reduce the amount of attention for those past thoughts. Because when you're alone, right? After a heartbreak, after a breakup, when you're alone, right? You're thinking about the moments and the things that happened in the past. The more you think about those things, the more you will be frustrated and the more you will be sad. So, what you have to do? Reduce the amount of attention that you are giving to that kind of thoughts. Right?
[9:31]So, you don't try to stop the thoughts, but let the thoughts to fade away from your life. And keep this in your mind. Whatever the terrible situation that you are going through in your life, it is going to be changed one day. Because none of our life experiences are permanent. Right? Every experience, every tough situation, every happy time, and every experience that we face in our own life are impermanent. They will change with the time. So, remember you're going to heal one day. You're going to be okay one day. Right? So, have some experience with these tough situations in our life. Remember these experiences make our life more and more strong. So, these are five things that you can do to heal your broken heart, right? So, I hope you got some ideas to how to heal your broken heart. And most importantly, don't forget to remember what our great teacher Supreme Buddha taught. One day we all have to be separated from every loving person around us. So, we have a short time in this life. So, we have to give our fullest love to these people around us and expect nothing from this world because our expectations will make us suffering. So, remember that and I'm going to end this video with a nice cord. And that is, when you are heartbroken cry, forgive, learn from your experiences, and let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.
