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Why We Have The Worst Dating Market in History

Gerbert's Void

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[0:03]I always had hoop dreams, but I never had the height. I never had poop dreams, but I still shed the sheets at night. I just want to get out the hood. Take off and take flight. till I hit the towers. Then they're out of sight. The way the towers fell, something bad is not right. Seems kind of like a plan. I used to be the man. Then I got into a fight. I I ended up beating up a dick. They took me to court. But I didn't want to I had to abort. All right, let me stop.

[0:34]What's up, boys? White Randy Moss here. You know, everyone's always talking about Looks Max this, Chad, that. Chad Pree, Chang Light, Rice Cell. Mog this, Height Max. You know, Peptides, Ford Shake. Jelking, Pilking, Jester Gooning. All of that's well and good. You know, squirt maxing, but we really have to get to the core of this problem. I'm here to present us a new angle. A new frame of analysis for all this gender discourse, for this dating discourse, the male loneliness epidemic, all of it. And high IQ incels have been talking about this for a long time. But here it is. There are less available women per man than ever. There is a seriously skewed effective gender ratio. There are less single women, way less single women than there are single men. This is just a numerical fact. And when you look at it like this, when people realize this, all of these things downstream start to make a little bit of sense. So let's talk about it. What do we have? We have this Pew Research data from a few years back. I've talked about this probably several times, but it's so crazy that it warrants a real deeper dive. Three in ten Americans report being single, but this varies by age, gender. What's this variation you ask? Oh my god, men ages 18 to 29, 63% single. Women ages 18 to 29, 34% single. How does that even happen? The way you think about it, oh, there's boys and girls. There's an equal amount of them. They get together. Then how on God's green earth are there twice as many single young men as single young women? And people go, oh, no, you just got to be more confident. You just got to gelk. You just got to look, bro. There's something seriously fucking twisted demographically, like very foundationally going on here. This warrants explaining. This is absurd. This is actually absurd. Now, the way black pillers, the way some incels explain this, is that it's like a Chad, a Chad theory. Basically, there are a few guys taking multiple women. like a hair, my hypergamy type deal. Now, I'm not saying this is completely false. But for, for it to explain this, it would have to be very numerically significant. This would have to be happening a lot. Now, I can think of examples. I know things like this happen, but it's not that common. It's not that serious where every guy is dating three women. We're like, every attractive guy is dating three women. Every, you know, every Chad is guaranteed going to be having a whole roster. Not really, dude. I know that stuff goes on, but not like this. Okay, we don't have any other supporting data to show that this whole Chad thing is the reason why this is happening. There are better explanations, okay? That's all I'm saying. And there are explanations which are kind of helpful because they can be made without making any judgments on the character of women. And I'm just as misogynistic as the next guy. There are sounds, numerical, very neutral reasons that contribute to this that can explain this. And I mean, people won't listen, so I I doubt this will like change the conversation or whatever. But, you know, the chuds listening to this, you can apply it. You can change how you move because I think there's a real case here. So, I'm going to bring up a couple reasons that explain this. First thing I will mention is that you may not know that more men are born than women. 105 to 106 men are born for every 100 women. Uh, there are many different reasons people have to explain this. But what's not under dispute is that it is true. More men are born than women. Some people say it's because there's more likely to be infant mortality among male babies. And after industrialization, this changed, so the gender ratio slowly changed. But it doesn't really matter the reason. We just know that it is. So, here we have the population pyramid of the United States of America. Now, you will see on the lower rungs, there are slight percentages higher of the blue side, the male side. And where this reverse is is up here among among the elderly, there are more elderly women. But let's go down to the 10 to 40 range. We see an excess of 600,000 men in the 10 to 14. Another excess of 6, 700,000. We have an excess of 6 to 800,000 men in each of these little steps here of the population pyramid. By the way, up here, this is the reason you'll see statistics like New York City is mostly female. Oh, go to Latvia. They have a, you know, 60/40 gender ratio, 60% female. It's not, you're you're picturing a bunch of young hot broads. It's this, okay? It's a bunch of grannies, okay? So granny maxers are rejoicing. But it it's almost never the case that they are excess young women anywhere that you can go. So let's do this to really explain what's happening. I'm going to use the population pyramid of Japan because it's the most clear. It'll be the easiest. Um, Japan and South Korea, they're they're sort of population pyramids are a bit more extreme than in many of the Western world. But in actuality, if you would look at just like the white population of the United States, it's not too different. So the average age gap in a relationship is three to five years. In modern times right now, it's closer to three years.

[7:33]Back back in the 20th century, early 20th century, it was much closer to five years. And we're talking about the Western world here, globally, it's closer to five years, and in some places it's like 10 years, the the gender gap. And obviously, when we say this, we're saying the man is three to five years older than the woman in the relationship. So that means on average, each man is dating one step lower in these four or five year categories here on the population pyramid. And that's just the average, right? Some dudes are way older. Some people date in the same age, but just the average is three to five years like this. All of this age gap discourse, all of this all of this is talked about because it's a very common and honestly, it's a natural thing that goes on. But here's the problem. When you have a population pyramid which is inverted, these guys date these girls.

[8:43]These guys also outnumber these girls because the population pyramid is shrinking. So what happens to these guys? Well, they they date these girls. As the population pyramid shrinks, you get the guys down here, the 20 to 24 range, where a lot of my viewers are. 20 to 29, just like the Pew Research study shows are 65% single. This has happened for all this time.

[9:10]It compounds. Do you see? So what I'm saying is that with an inverted population pyramid, and with nature already being where women date older men, three to five years older on average. This keeps on happening and you get to a breaking point where it's crazy where double the amount of men are single than the young women. This is the main reason we find ourselves in this situation today. All of these guys from guys in their 60s to guys in their late teens. They want girls from 18 to 30. They already outnumber because more men are born, and they date down. That leaves these guys right here, severely outnumbering them. In the effective gender ratio, the dating market gender ratio, these girls right here. And they outnumber them as much as two times. So Japan's just the most clear inverted population pyramid to really paint this picture here. And that's not even mentioning Chad theory where one Chad guy over here could take multiple girls right here across the same age boundary.

[10:30]Which that probably happens and contributes, too, but we don't even have to talk about that. But here you have Africa, you see a an actual high fertility population pyramid, a reproductive population pyramid. Now, in many parts of Africa, it's not very monogamous. So, in any given generation, there will be a lot of incel men, sort of. The reason why this isn't a huge problem in Africa is because, okay, a lot of these men are incels, what do they do? They date down. They they poach the younger women in the generation. There's no social stigma. But this isn't a problem because, oh, then these men are incels. They date down. They date down. They date down. It goes on forever because there's always you see, it it works infinitely. Because the population pyramid is reproducing itself. There's always more and more women, okay? So eventually these guys will be incels, but because it'll grow even bigger down here, that's fine. They'll date down. But this doesn't work when it's inverted, obviously. And so it's so crazy when people say things like, oh, this is actually Eugenic, like the male loneliness epidemic is really just Eugenics, da da da. You're ridiculous, okay? First of all, in order for something to be Eugenic, you actually have to be reproducing. There's many different reproductive strategies, okay? There's low investment, high fertility, that's Africa. You could say it's not ideal, you could say what you want. They're doing it, okay? It is a reproductive strategy. There's also high investments, low fertility, which traditionally is like European. It's a little less fertility, higher investment. You know, the nuclear family type of deal.

[12:22]That's probably a little better than this. Ideally, you'd have high both, but that's impossible to be, uh, maintained society-wide. It's it's hard to pull off, right? To have a bunch of kids and to be super invested in all of them. It's a lot of time, it's a lot of resources, it's a strong community, it's all of that. That's like a perfect society. But we have now low investment, low fertility. So fucking nothing, right? You could say what you want about these people, at least they're accomplishing their there, you know, the whole purpose of an organic life form is to reproduce, at least they're doing it. This is nothing. People say this is Eugenic, what the fuck are you talking about? It's literally nothing. You're not even It's the most dysgenic thing ever. You're not reproducing. It's just all these women chasing the top amount of these guys. There's already excess guys not even having kids with them. It's just the worst shit ever. It's the end of civilization is what it is. Especially when you don't have monogamy, the the inevitable result of a breakdown of monogamy is more single men than single women. But even if we had the perfect system where every man got a woman, there would still be millions of excess men because more of them are born and none of them are being expended. Throughout history, societies have always had a relief valve to rid themselves of these excess men who were a bit of a destabilizing social force. This happens in the form of wars or some form of colonization. Spain and Portugal, in in the case of Portugal, it was a kind of a deliberate move to rid themselves of of excess men.

[14:39]They sent them off to South America and that's where they started, you know, porking and created all the the fifth root race or whatever. It's kind of the same thing too with Australia. After the Industrial Revolution in Britain, a massive class inequality emerged. And there ended up being this very large underclass of people kind of forced into crime to survive with the inequality that emerged from all the industrialization. And this underclass was vastly the vast majority of them were men. Australia was founded by like 80% men.

[15:32]These were all these this underclass. They took and shipped off to Australia. 80% men. you'd think, how does that happen? Wouldn't this underclass be 50/50, you know, men, women, you know, just like poor people? No, that's not how things work. Britain had all these excess men. They had to send them to an island across the world. This kind of thing is even happening now with the whole passport bro geo maxing thing. But but the men are doing it of their own accord. They're just going somewhere else. It's like, I used to think this was very like modern and cringe. This this whole passport bro thing, like going somewhere else, but it's actually just a modernized version of something that has a lot of historical precedent. Like, there's excess men one place. They go across the world and they find women there. That's what happens. Every woman is valuable. You need every single one of them for reproduction to propagate the species, civilization. Dudes, there's more of them born, and their real value comes in their physical abilities, their ability to do things. And that comes with a bit of an expendability. And some of them have to be expended. This is one of like the brutal truths of reality.

[16:58]You no none of these guys get expended. You have all them build up. They're all chasing after the same group of women who they're all attracted to naturally because of fertility. And none of them are dying. You have all these excess men. It's a little uh, callous, let's say, but this this turns into a problem. It really does. It especially turns into a problem when we are not replacing ourselves. When we do not have a healthy population. But there are all these dudes now, all these excess young men. And there's like no place for them. There are just on the internet, rage baiting, or like arguing over anime characters and shit. Like, a lot of these people need to be cannon fodder. And and like, it would be presumptuous to even exclude myself from this group. But a lot, it seems like for society to function properly, a lot of dudes just need to get like, just need to be in the front lines, charging, getting blasted. They're sitting around gooning, and we just need a lot of these dudes to die to even up the ratio, bro. Another thing to consider is uh, that in many places, the vast majority of immigrants are men. In the United States, this is not as much of a problem. It's maybe a little bit skewed. But we got the Latinos and stuff. It's all right. Most of the immigrants in many parts of Europe are are vastly a majority of them are men. And uh, you know, that causes problems. It would be one thing if it was a bunch of chicks. But then, of course, the uh, the British women would be marching around in Hugo Boss uniforms. India and uh, we can't see it here, but specific parts of India, particularly Punjab. Has a serious male excess population. It's crazy here. There's like 6 million extra young Indian men in every one of these these rungs here. It's even more skewed. I don't even know how that happens. It's almost like a cruel joke from God. Punjab has 922 females for every 1000 males. Uh, Canada, places like Canada, are just getting a bunch of these guys. So to summarize what I've said so far, more men are born than women. Throughout history, there have always been outlets where men went and died or they went somewhere else. A lot of immigrants into many first world countries are majority men. And finally, the inevitable consequences of a shrinking inverted population pyramid, due to the average age gap of relationships where women naturally date older, men naturally date a little younger. This inevitably compounds with a shrinking population pyramid to where young men, single young men, are overwhelmingly represented. You can find multiple single young men for every single young woman. You just know a lot of young people. How many single young guys are there? How many single young women are there? You can even just think of it, it's real. This is what explains this in a most satisfactory way, okay?

[20:20]It's why as women get older, they're more likely to be single. Women ages 65 plus, they're the most single. Men ages 65 plus, they're the least single among all the men male cohorts. You see how it's the opposite? And if we don't actually reproduce ourselves over a long enough time scale, this is what happens. It's very logical. And so this age gap discourse is interesting because while on one hand, you could just see it as like seething older ladies. And like a bit of an attack on what is honestly like a natural male sexuality. I'm kind of inclined to agree with them because I don't really want, uh, millennials in their 30s dating Zoomer girls in their 20s because, uh, you're not going to be able to do the same thing. After 2008, after the the usual suspects pulled the old fast one on us, our birth rate fell off a cliff. So people go like, oh, men sexual market value was highest when they're in their 30s or like their 40s. I mean, first of all, like that depends on how you age. Some people, the reaper just comes and takes their hairline, you know. I I will admit, there there might be some truth at the core of it. A lot of older guys might sort of mog their younger selves and mog 20-year-old guys in general. I I don't think that part is completely cope. But if you think the dating ratio is bad now where there's 60% single young men and 30% single young women, wait, it it just keeps on getting worse with what I'm talking about, right? So wait 15 years, when you're 35, when I'm 35. And say I improved all the way, dude. Let's say I was on peptides. Let's say, bro, I I became a super mogger. When I was 35, I I grew three inches. Let's say I look like Chris Hemsworth now in my mid to late 30s. It doesn't matter because everybody's just all these uh, inexperienced chuds in their 30s. They'll be chasing like the last 10 young women in in the entire Continental United States. You know what, get what's going on. You you can't date down generations. The next generation doesn't exist. They're way below replacement. It's not like Africa where you can be an incel and then, oh, because people everybody's having kids, you can just date someone six years younger. No, there are six years younger than me. That doesn't exist. That's like six years younger than me. That's well after 2008. They statistically barely exist. You don't get to do the same thing than millennials did. The dudes are doing now. There are even with all the social stigma, dudes are still scooping. 30-year-old dudes are still scooping 20-year-old chicks. You won't do the same thing because they won't even exist. Do you not get it? Like, like actually, you're your clock is ticking. So that's one thing to apply to this like, your clock is ticking. Unless you want to geox to Africa, everywhere is below replacement. Or Israel, but they don't, they're not going to let you. It's like 2007, 2008, this is the last sort of frontier group of young people. If you're planning to date below that, they're barely going to exist. So it's just going to be even worse for you. The ratio. There's going to be four other 30-year-old guys, just like you who thought the same thing, chasing one of those 20-year-old girls. Probably even worse. You were born, it was a a little bit above replacement. After 2008, it fell completely below. You outnumber them. There's no, there's none of this going on. You, do do you get it? This is what happens. And so geoxxing, I used to hate on it. I think it's a good way. Like even that could be saturated, but it's a good way. It needs to happen. And you could do it. I'm not mad at you for doing it. Um, I'd really want to find like an American girl, but dude, if it ends up being that I'm I might geox.

[24:15]I might have to passport, bro. But either way, a lot of guys have to do it. It absorbs. It helps fix it a little bit. It absorbs these young men. They have to do it. And yeah, you're screwing some of the people over there, some of the guys over there, maybe, but this is how it is. Let me end with some boomer propaganda, as I've been trying to do. As I am, I'm a uh, I'm a jolly chipper kind of guy who flips everything, who coordinates everything to be good, to work to my benefit. So what does this mean to me? Well, it's just another thing that is forcing you to be delusional and embrace like a high-risk heroic type lifestyle. The value proposition of just like working for the rest of your life and all these inflated currency and being milked forever. I said, you have to surf or sink in the Cali, right? Well, this is just another one of those things. It's one thing if you already have a wife and children. If you already met a good girl in high school or college, you got married, you're having kids. If you're smart, if you work hard, if you have faith, I believe things will work for you. You should work hard, you should do all this. But if you're a guy, you didn't get there early. You know, you didn't have you didn't, uh, find a girl. And now you're just working out there, and you have to what, go on all these apps where men out where men outnumber women, like five to one in in many cases. In every case, men outnumber women a lot on these apps. And you're just out there in this demographic situation where there are twice as many single young men as single young women, and there's no communal structure. There's no one helping you. There's no way to meet anyone. Even if you do meet someone, she's been hopping on ween like a daily routine since the day she turned what? 15? You single young chud, you have no reason to not really raise your risk appetite. Try to do something ridiculous, try to surf or sink, right? Try to pull something off. Try to romanticize life. Do something crazy. Put it on the line for your your vision, your calling. Nothing less is satisfactory. Nothing less makes sense now. That's what you have to do. A dating scene in a modern city where you're already working, and now you have to try to find Like traditionally, the whole reason to work and the whole reason why you're doing a slop job that you hate anyway, it makes total sense if you have a family. If you already had that emotional support of a loving woman, but now you're you're doing that, you don't have that. Let's say, and the money's not even worth anything. You're never going to be able to even buy a house. The only way the economy makes sense is if you have dual income. Maybe. So, if you're if you're already married, if you already are are are planning to have kids, you know, my whole my whole thing, it doesn't doesn't apply to you quite as much. But if you don't, if you're not already married, if you don't already have kids, bro, you basically have to put it on the line. You can't just like sit down and take it and be milked for the rest of your life. I said surf or sink, or surf or drown or something like that. If people go, well, most people are going to drown, you know that? It's like, yeah, that's still better. Do you not understand? You're being milked. You're goit cattle for the rest of your life. You can't even find a girl. You're working constantly. It's very stressful. It sucks. You have no emotional support from a woman, and now you're subjecting yourself to a dating scene in a modern city where single men outnumber single women two to one, and you're on all these apps, and you're going on dates with whores. And you think, oh, I'm just going to keep on doing this. No, you literally have to risk everything to build a life you actually want to live. It doesn't make fucking sense why you wouldn't. And these dudes didn't even have love in high school or college. They didn't even get to have fun experiences to look back on. What? What? Surf or sink, baby. Get with the fucking program. It's nonsense that you would. And I will also say this, man. Black pillers might not like this. They'll think this is like a delusional or coping kind of thing to say, but I think you should be a bit delusional.

[29:10]And uh, you know, it's very corny, but like, you're just chasing them. You're chasing your mission fully, and that's when that's when women just like appear.

[29:39]They just like join your journey. That's what, that's the archetype, dude. And I'm I'm speaking to myself just as I'm speaking to you. Like, like the fear gets to me too. And I haven't become completely unemployable. I want to. In my case, what's my, what's my guy? What's my whole thing I want to focus on? Is it my channels? Maybe, maybe not, you know. It could be you become so certain. When I was like a teen, I made these. It worked pretty fast. But you hit some walls and you go, is this what it is? Maybe, maybe. I'll ask you guys, do you think there's something here that I should keep doing? Do people care? You want to see more? Comment down. I'll try to read some of them. And if I see something that makes me go, yeah, I should go all out in this right here. Because there's lots of things I want to do, you know.

[31:39]If you're still listening, maybe you care about the old grb and and uh, maybe some housekeeping stuff regarding this channel, I might start doing sponsors. Because, look, bro, YouTube already puts ads on here. It's getting harder to block them. I get like, what? Like, a fraction of a cent. And some of these are like pornography. Or just like ridiculous shit on these apps, and you have to watch them anyway. So, I can get like three bands making a quick personalized ad. You could just like press the the arrow key to skip over anyway. And I can make it funny and quirky and whatever. So, I really don't see reason not to start putting, not in everybody, I'm not going to bench a Pi it, especially not like multiple for video, but I might start doing that a little bit. So, just a forewarning, don't want to hear, don't want to hear any nonsense about it because it's it's not really a problem. You could just skip it, and it's not like anti-Semitism ads or whatever you're already getting on the video. Whatever. Uh, thanks for watching oms. Peace out.

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