[0:00]If you're someone who always gets ignored by women and not a single one gives you any attention and you're constantly chasing girls, whether there's a specific girl you like who makes you chase her without ever acknowledging you, or if all girls simply don't care about you, please listen carefully to what I'm about to say as if your life depends on it. You need to understand that you have a problem in your life. I don't care about your financial situation or your looks. If you're someone who constantly gets ignored by women, then you have a real problem in your life. Don't try to lie to yourself and say this isn't a problem or that you just need money or that you just need to focus on yourself and work out so the problem will fix itself. No, I'm sure you know someone worse than you. Yet he still gets attention from women and even if you're the type who says I need to work on myself and then everything will improve, that's still not your case. Believe me. Even if you became a millionaire, if right now you're being ignored by women, then all the girls who come to you will be girls who only want to exploit you financially. And if you're okay with that, then by all means, go for it. But I don't know you well and I don't know how your life is going, but what I do know is that I used to be like you. And the suffering you're feeling and trying to ignore, I felt it. I'm not handsome, I was late to become financially stable, and my first kiss didn't happen until my twenties. So I don't know your exact situation, but I'm sure it's not worse than what I went through. And if you're in that place, then I want to tell you that the solution to this problem is very simple. All you have to do is listen to me carefully and do exactly what I'm about to tell you now. The problem lies in your behavior, in the way you deal with girls. There may be someone exactly on your level, but he succeeds with girls simply because his behavior is better than yours. And you as a person, need to change your behavior. I know you're gonna say, no, I don't want to change. I want to stay as I am. Bro, that's nonsense. You should not stay as you are. You are suffering from this problem because of the way you currently are and you need to change yourself in order to solve it. In this video, I'm going to focus on the most important reason why girls ignore you. I'm going to take you inside a girl's mind and explain the reason to you. This video will be one of the most important in the how to attract women series, so please listen carefully to me. The video will be divided into two parts. In the beginning, I'll explain to you why you're being ignored, and at the end, I'll show you how to stop being ignored once and for all. Let's start with your mind, how it works. When you see a beautiful girl and like her, you want her to like you. And when you want her to like you, you make an effort. For example, you're talking with her and she tells you that she likes going to the beach. So you say that you also like the beach. Or she says she likes a certain book and you go buy it for her. These are efforts you're making in order to impress that girl. And when you make this kind of effort, you're stepping out of your natural self. Imagine you're sitting at home. You'd be in your natural state, maybe crossing your legs, maybe sitting while smoking, for example. In that case, you're relaxed and being yourself. But if we bring a girl and put her next to you, you'll suddenly become alert, trying to adjust your posture, trying to speak a certain way, trying to look special, making an effort just to impress her. This is how your brain works. Remember this well, and let me give you an example so you can understand what I'm trying to explain. Imagine you're hungry, so you'll feel the need to get up and eat. So you get up, go to the supermarket, buy some stuff, come back home, start cooking, and finally prepare the food, then sit and eat. In this example, what happened in your brain? You were hungry, so you made an effort to get food. If I asked you, if you were already full, would you get up, cook, and go through all that trouble for food? You'd say no. But because you were hungry, you made the effort, and you did it because you needed the food. That word need is the foundation of this rule. As humans, the reason we make an effort is because we need something. Same thing with the girl. When you make an effort, it means you need that girl. And if you still remember, I told you in a previous video that the number one killer of attraction is neediness. Remember this well, if someone ever asks you, what's the number one killer of attraction? Tell them neediness. The problem here is that everyone knows this. Everyone says it, but no one actually understands what it really means. Neediness doesn't mean you go up to a girl and say, I need you. Neediness is something she feels when she sees you making an effort just to impress her. And neediness is the reason she starts ignoring you. Don't worry. I'll explain later how to deal with this and what mistakes you're making. Just let me explain the concept now. In short, if you want girls to stop ignoring you, you must not be needy. And in order not to be needy, you must stop making an effort. And in order to stop making an effort, you must stay in your natural state. The moment a girl sees that you've stepped out of your natural self, she'll automatically begin ignoring you. And that's why the girl you don't even like, ends up liking you because you're just being yourself around her. And that's why in today's video, I'll teach you how to make her feel that you don't need her, and how to stay natural around her. And before I explain how to apply this, I want you to forget all the nonsense you're used to hearing online like, don't reply to her, block her, sit like a man when you talk to her, be late on purpose for dates. Even though these manipulative tactics might work in some cases, they are not the solution, and most of the time, girls notice this. Anyway, let's return to our main topic. How to make her feel that you don't need her? I'm going to give you a set of behaviors and rules that I want you to start applying. Our first rule is, enjoy your time without caring about her opinion or society's standards. How? There's something I used to always do when I was on a date. And that is, when I'm talking to a girl and we start bantering or she starts joking with me, I would grab a plastic water bottle and lightly tap her on the head with it and say, shh. And of course, I would do it in a playful way, not actually hitting her. I'm 100% sure she's never experienced anything like that before with any guy, especially on a first date. Meaning, we just started talking, there's no relationship between us yet, and I still grabbed the bottle, tapped her head, and started laughing. Through this action, she sees that I truly don't care what she thinks, that I'm being myself and doing what I want. Because that kind of action, if you were with a close friend, you'd easily do it without thinking. Why? Because he's your friend and you're relaxed and natural around him. But when you're with a girl, you wouldn't dare do something like that because you care about her opinion and you're afraid of seeming silly or anything like that. But no. If you do something like that, she'll feel that you're being natural. And please, try it. Please, if you ever get the chance and you're in a group that includes girls and one of them says something stupid or meaningless, grab an empty plastic bottle, tap her lightly on the head and say, shh. I swear to you, she'll start laughing immediately. And if her friends are around, they'll start laughing too. And I swear you'll notice her attraction to you when she's laughing and looking at you. Just make sure to do it gently and make it clear that you're only joking and enjoying your time. Another example I also use is when a girl is sitting next to me, I ask her for a small favor, either something near her or I ask her for a small favor she can't really refuse. And when she does it, I raise my hand, place it on her head, pat her and say, good girl. As if she were a little kid, or if she does something I like, I do the same. I just do whatever comes to my mind without caring about her standards or thoughts. Let's take another example. Let's say you're talking to her and she tells you, I got 10% on my math exam. Most guys would respond with, no problem, you'll do better next time, or I don't like math either, and so on with those kinds of replies. But imagine saying to her, 10%? You're so stupid. And you start laughing at her. Again, here you're just enjoying your time with her without needing her. Or if she tells you, I fell down. Don't start worrying or asking if she's okay. No, laugh at her. Ask how she fell and laugh even more. Of course, this is in a situation where she's clearly okay with joking around. Meaning, not if she says, my mother died, and you laugh, or she fell and broke my leg, and you're still laughing. No, you shouldn't be rude. Another example, let's say you smoke and when you're next to her, you light a cigarette. If she says, the smoke suffocates me, or don't smoke next to me, the smoke suffocates me. Don't say okay, and don't move away just to smoke in peace. No, tell her, don't worry, I'll just finish this one. Or say something simple and continue smoking. Now you might say, but she's suffocating from the smoke and can't tolerate it. Fine, let her move and keep her distance until you're done. Why should you be the one who cares? What I want you to focus on is, when you're talking to her, your entire focus should be on enjoying your time without caring about the outcome. Be detached from the outcome. Stop caring about whether the girl approves of you or not. And by the way, if you enjoy reading psychology and want to learn advanced psychological manipulation techniques that can make any girl obsessed with you. I've written an ebook about those kinds of manipulation strategies that I'm not allowed to talk about on YouTube, and I'll leave you the link in the first comment. Rule number two. Don't overextend yourself with her. Meaning, let's suppose you're going out on a date with her. Don't take her to an expensive restaurant and pay the equivalent of an entire day's wage. And even if you're financially comfortable, don't take her to a fancy restaurant if that's not your type of lifestyle. Ask yourself, if I were going out with a friend, where would we go? The answer to that question is the same place you should go, especially for the first few dates. And to be honest with you, some of the best dates I've ever had were in parks or completely free places. Seriously, that way she'll truly see that you don't need her. You go to the places you like, even if she's with you, and you don't make any special effort. And by the way, here's an important side note, always take the girl on the first date to a place where people know you. For example, a cafe where the staff already knows you because that makes her feel like you've taken her to a place that's part of your usual life. And that she's just an addition to it, not that you changed your whole life because she entered it. And this doesn't apply just to the location of the date, but to everything. Don't try to dress in a flashy way when you go out with her. And this is a mistake I see so many guys make. They go on a date wearing extravagant clothes, putting product in their hair, standing in front of a mirror for an entire hour like they're going to a wedding. What the hell? Why? Imagine you were meeting your sister. Would you wear an exaggerated shirt or expensive sneakers? Of course not. It's the same with a girl. Just wear something normal and simple and be comfortable when you're with her. That way she'll feel that you're relaxed and that you're truly not putting an effort to impress her, meaning that you don't need her. Another example, when she tries to criticize your ability in something, don't try to prove her wrong. Let's suppose you don't know how to drive a car and maybe you're even afraid of driving. I don't know if anyone has that issue, but let's just imagine. If she tries to make fun of you because you can't drive or criticizes you, don't get angry. Laugh and say, yeah, that's true. And continue the conversation like it's nothing. If there's something you don't know how to do, tell her and don't try to fake it. Don't be ashamed of your flaws. Don't force yourself to do something you're not capable of doing. Or for example, if she starts telling you, I like guys who go to the gym, or I like men who don't wear glasses, and you're wearing glasses. Don't try to meet her standards. And by the way, this is a trick a lot of girls use. They set a certain standard and want you to chase it, like when she says, I like athletic guys. In this case, don't agree with her and don't try to rise to that level. Flip the situation into a joke. Say something like, you've got great taste, or, yeah, I like guys like that too. And laugh. Rule number three, never, and I repeat, never compete over her. Never put yourself in a situation with a girl where you are competing for her with other men. And what I'm about to explain to you now, I don't want you to just hear it. I want it to enter your mind and stay there until the last day of your life. Usually, when you're in a place where guys and girls are gathered, you'll see some guys trying to get the girl's attention, competing over who tells the best joke, who looks stronger than the others, who has the most exciting story.
[10:33]And sometimes, some guys might even become rude to others just to make themselves look better. I don't want you to be one of those guys. Those guys are idiots. The moment you start competing to gain a girl's approval, it means you need her. It means you're insecure, and it means you're putting in effort for that girl. That's why you should never compete over girls. If someone tells a story, don't jump in and try to tell a better one, or try to be the one who makes everyone in the group laugh. Stay calm, stay natural, and imagine there are no girls at all in that place, and just enjoy the gathering. That's the first point. The second point is to elevate the value of the other guys. And this is one of the strongest things that makes all the girls become impressed by you. Let me tell you a story that happened to me years ago. As I always say, I love hiking, and I always go on hiking trips with groups of guys and girls who don't know each other. And by the way, organized trips that include groups of strangers are among the best places where you can meet single women. Anyway, I went on one of those trips with a friend, and we met up with the group and sat in the morning to have breakfast. We ate, and then the group started talking and getting to know each other. And at one point, one of the guys in the group told a joke. The joke, to be honest, was a bit funny, and the girls started smiling. But the rest of the guys didn't react, probably because each one of them was trying to be the funny guy who makes the girls laugh. So the atmosphere of competition was obvious. But me, when I heard the joke, I started laughing hard. And when the girls saw me laughing, they started laughing more too. And suddenly, I became the center of attention.
[11:59]Even though I wasn't the one who made the joke. And that's exactly what I want you to do when you're with guys and girls. Enjoy the guys, appreciate them. If someone tells a joke, laugh at it. If someone shares a story to show off, don't try to one up him. If someone does something impressive, clap for him, laugh, and highlight his value. Girls are not stupid, they notice these things. When they see a guy among them start acting rude to other guys and trying to be the only one who stands out, they feel he's doing that just to impress them. And it becomes obvious. But when there's a man who doesn't compete, he's the one who's confident and doesn't need anyone. And by the way, since we're talking about this topic, there's another point. Don't be jealous. If you see a girl you like with another guy, don't ask her about him or try to know the details. Just leave it alone. And at the same time, there's something else. If you can do it, you might shock the girl and have her thinking about you morning and night. And that is, introduce her to your friend who's better looking than you. Yes, you heard me right. If you have a friend who's more handsome than you, and you're dating a girl or in a relationship with her, you can introduce them to each other, or let them meet. Because when she sees that you did that, she'll know that you're not jealous at all, that you have high confidence in yourself. And of course, when you all meet, never show that you're jealous or afraid he might take her from you. And finally, the last point is, body language. Of course, if you've been following the how to attract women series, you probably already know what you need to do. Your body language, simply put, should reflect comfort. Don't try to think about crossing your legs a certain way or placing one hand over the other. Everything you hear online about how you should sit is pure bullshit. What you actually need to do is be comfortable. If you want to put your hands in your pockets, do it. If you want to put them on your head, do it. Stretch out and lean back, it doesn't matter. As long as you're in a position that's comfortable for you, you're good. When you walk, don't try to pull your shoulders back and walk in some overly deliberate way. And remember, online, there's a lot being said about body language. All of that is garbage. Walk and move in the way that makes you feel comfortable. And the girl, her mind will pick up on it. And always remember, you don't need that girl. Yes, you like her, but you're not going to make any effort to impress her. And once you do all of this, once you apply all of these behaviors, the girl will feel that you're someone who doesn't need her. And be certain, you will never be ignored again because you didn't put in any effort and didn't chase her in the first place for her to ignore you. You never even gave her the chance to ignore you. And, I love you. That was The Dark Needle, and I'll see you in the next video.
