與人連結的捷徑：不是讓自己變有趣

[0:00]Some people are interesting, some people make people feel interesting. It's a difference between being interesting and interested. Somebody that comes in and has this very electric aura out there, lots of stories, all the rest of it. That's fine, and I like being around those people, but the skill set to be able to be that sort of a person, to have that kind of charisma for want of a better word, I think is typically quite high. I'm a little bit lower energy, I'm a little bit more thoughtful, I'm a bit more shy, I'm a bit more whatever. Thoughtful isn't boring. Okay, but if you don't say much, let's say you just don't get the words out that quickly, or you don't think that quickly when it comes to like telling whatever. If somebody feels that, if somebody feels like they might be boring and they're worried that they are. I mean, one thing is to go and have some life experiences and become a little bit more confident with your communication, all the rest of it. And that's great and you should do that too. But a much quicker route to making people feel comfortable around you and to connecting with people is to just get really good at asking questions. So if you ask the question like, how did that make you feel? Or why? Or what did you mean by that as somebody is telling a story, that is them away for ages. Now you as a question, ask, now have to deal with whether or not that person's interesting to you.