[0:00]I was born without arms. I am getting ready for a blind date. The outfit that I'm wearing shows my shoulders so that my date will know that I don't have arms. meeting someone that like uses their feet for everything, it can pose a lot of questions. That's why I'm doing this so people can see it's not that scary. Hi. Hi. How's it going? Yeah, sure. You are very cute. You too. Did I tell you I didn't have arms? You don't have arms. Oh my God, I know where they go. I just don't have the stamina to do this every day. But I do enjoy doing it. I was born without arms. medically that would just be called bilateral playshia of the upper limbs. I'm getting ready for my date. Maybe wear some perfume, so I don't smell bad. I'm definitely very self-conscious about it. meeting someone that like uses their feet for everything, it can pose a lot of questions. That's why I'm doing this, so people can see it's not that scary. The outfit that I'm wearing shows my shoulders so that my date will know that I don't have arms.
[1:13]That's going to have to be okay.
[1:21]Oh my God, I'm really terrified. My name is Dustin. I'm 27 years old and I'm in med school. My type is somebody that is um, that I can vibe with really well that we can have like a really easy conversation.
[1:39]Hi. Hi. How's it going? Can I give you a hug? Yeah, sure. How are you? Good. How are you? Good. Uh, what's your name? My name is Inga, what's yours? Dustin. Dustin? Yeah. Um, have you ever done a blind date before? No, first one. This is my first one too. Nice. Yeah. So do you work here? Are you going to school or? Yep, I'm in my third year med school. Oh my God, that's so cool. What kind of what kind of what kind of medicine do you want to practice or be a doctor for? So I'm leaning towards psychiatry. Okay. That's definitely like one of my. Wait, that's so cool. Like, wait, can I ask what are you wearing? I'm 27. Okay. Yeah. How about you? I'm 22 but I'm turning 23 on the 23rd. Oh nice. Of this month. Yeah, so I'm very excited. Very cool. I am a philosophy and law, criminology and society, but I want to go into like law school, obviously. Do you do you drink coffee? Do you want to order coffee? I would love coffee. Perfect. I was going to get you water but then things got really busy, so I I'm sorry. I didn't get you water. That's all good. No worries. Oh my God, thank you. Oh my God, look at the flowers. Do you want to try this? It's really good. Yeah, sure. It's really good. I think you are very cute. You too. Um, did they tell you I didn't have arms? No. Oh, you don't have arms. Oh my God, I know where the they go. I know I literally had to like go out and find them. I was like, I wonder what I'll say about it. Yeah. I mean, you know, what can you say about it? Like, yeah. Growing up without arms, it's like very interesting, right? Because you sort of live with it every day. So, even though I feel like I have had to spend my entire life working to find new solutions to do things or to get places or to do what I want to do. It's the only thing I've ever known, so for me it's not this, you know, crazy different thing. It's just sort of adapting in a world where you are not the standard norm, I guess. Do you mind if I ask you questions about it? No. So like is it something that you were born with or is it something that happened later on? Yeah, so I was adopted, so I don't know a lot of like my personal history, but I just I've always been born without them. How's that been? I mean, it's all I've ever known. So I think it's been a pretty chill time. I think like when I was younger, I felt like really guilty about it, living in a society that's not very adaptable to that and like needing help through that. But then recently I was just kind of like, is that my fault, or is that just the fact that we live in a society that's like very geared towards one very specific kind of person? I think you have such a great attitude about it. Like, Thank you. You know. Okay, I'm going to go use the restroom. I'll be right back. Sounds good. Okay, okay. He seems very sweet. He seems funny, which I like. And um, yeah, it's going really well. He's cute. He has a nice cute little flirty smile. I like it when he smiles.
[4:43]Do they do they ask you any questions? Ah, yeah. Am I, can I ask what they asked what you said? They're like, what do you think? I was like, I got to get out of here. I gotta run. I got to go. I gotta run. Yeah. You switch my straw over. Yeah. Okay. Okay, you ask something. I've been asking questions, your turn. Sure. So, do you go out much? I think of myself as very extroverted and I am but like I don't go out very much. I live with three roommates and sometimes my roommates will go like one, two, like three times a week, which is great and amazing for them. I just don't have the stamina for it. I'm more of like a drink boxed wine and take my adderall and do homework in bed kind of girl. I love it. It's very nice. Very chill. Sometimes I go out and I'm completely fine and I feel so confident and I have such a great time. And I will get hit on and it's great. And then there are definitely sometimes though, where I'll just have like one too many people like look at me and it's always like do they think I'm cute? Do they think I'm funless? Are they uncomfortable? Are they being creepy? And then I can get like really in my head and like sometimes I'll go out for like 30 minutes and I'm like, I have to go home. I'm 100%. I mean, you know, I'm not armless, so I don't know your experience. I completely understand what you're saying. I completely get every what are you doing? I'm going to chop them off. I completely get every But I mean, you know, there's so much like truth into what you say. And I think I have to remember that this happens to everyone too. Like if I do something clumsy, I'm like, oh, it's because I don't have arms or if I don't do this. And I have to remember, I'm like, yes, you do things differently, but like everyone has bad nights, like and I think it is kind of important to like not reflect that on yourself. Cuz like people can be kind of gross. Yeah. Do you have a hot take on anything? Um, I have a few hot takes. Let's hear them. Okay. You're not going to like the first one. One, cats are not my favorite animal. I think snakes and reptiles are Oh I got to go. Secondly, very controversial take. I feel like ghosts exist. I'm sorry. Do I have any proof? No, but like sometimes something will happen and I'm like, no, like literally the f is to my room. For sure. I think anything's possible. Ghosts could be out there. Aliens are for sure out there. For sure. Maybe it's the aliens disguised as ghosts. Yeah. It was so nice meeting you. Yeah, it was really nice meeting you too. You have a nice smile. I like talking to you. Thanks. You do too. Uh, do you want to get out of here? Yeah. Okay, cool. Okay, okay. How'd the date go? Um, I think it went pretty well. What do you think? I think it went pretty well. Sweet. Yeah. I liked like just being able to like laugh and kind of like shoot the shit a little bit. Yeah, for sure. Will you see each other again? I hope so. I hope I hope we see each other again. What do you think? I think I think we should see each other again. Sweet. Yeah. Dating is supposed to be like light and fun. And so, you know, even if you do like have a disability or something that you're self-conscious of, just like be willing and open to just not, you know, take yourself too seriously and just find those like little pockets of um joy and just being able to connect with another person.
