[0:00]How to create tension with women by slowing down your communication. I'm going to show you guys live infield footage of me demonstrating this concept perfectly.
[0:09]And the beautiful thing about today's clip is that I'm not even talking about a flirtatious topic. I'm not displaying intent. I'm not saying any sort of flirty line.
[0:18]We're literally talking about, where are you from? That's the beautiful part of mastering non-verbal communication is that you can even be talking about an indirect topic.
[0:30]Something like, where are you from, where do you live? But when the non-verbal are dialed in, the emotions, just from the way your eyes look, the way you pause,
[0:41]for a full second before responding to what she said, the way you have a little wink in your eye, the way your voice drops down a little bit, all of these different elements is what ultimately creates tension and the women feel it.
[0:54]You will see the emotional reaction I create within her just from saying this one thing the right way. So, tonality, delivery, your speed, it's everything man. It's so powerful.
[1:05]So, let's get into this clip. Just to give you guys some context, we are about 40 seconds into this interaction.
[1:10]I, I came from, so I was born and raised in New Jersey. And then two years ago, I moved to Miami.
[1:17]And I want to show you guys, when she asks me where I'm from, pay attention to how slow of a response I have.
[1:23]Okay. And then, how do you like Miami?
[1:26]I love Miami. I literally look at her for a second. I smile. I almost look her up and down slightly.
[1:34]She feels the tension just from that pause and then she actually has to break the eye contact and she starts laughing and I'm literally like, wait, what's so funny?
[1:42]Because we're literally talking about Miami and she starts looking away so let's show the first part of this clip.
[1:46]Two years ago, I moved to Miami. Okay. And then, how do you like Miami? I love Miami.
[1:52]Do you? Yeah, why you, why did you make that face?
[1:56]Now, this may not seem like anything crazy if you're not used to looking at the subtle nuances of communication.
[2:03]But one of the biggest mistakes I see men making in their interactions is the moment the woman asked them a question, they respond instantly, like instantly.
[2:11]They sometimes will even cut the woman off by saying back what she just said. From Germany.
[2:18]Compare that to letting a full second, which by the way, a full second when you're standing this close to somebody.
[2:25]It might not seem like much when you guys are watching this clip, but I promise you, if you've ever spoken on camera, if you've ever heard yourself in a recording of an interaction, like most of my clients,
[2:34]I'm coaching them live while they're out in the field. I'm recording those sessions. I'm breaking down the recordings of their conversations and then I'm playing them back and going through them line by line.
[2:43]A full second of silence in a conversation, it might not seem like much when you're playing back the recording, but in that moment, it's like you're in double time.
[2:51]Right? One second of silence feels like two seconds of silence. Two seconds of silence feels like five seconds of silence.
[2:57]It really is like a accelerated time especially when you're close looking into someone's eyes. So when she asks me about Miami,
[3:06] I just pause for one second and then I tilt my head slightly and I say, I love Miami.
[3:12]I know again, I know it seems very nuanced and very, very subtle, almost like borderline like, okay, Kyle, you're overthinking this.
[3:19]I promise you I'm not and her reaction is literally confirmation because I even ask her, I said, what, you don't like Miami?
[3:25]She goes, no, no, I do. You don't like it? I like it. It's okay.
[3:28]Like she doesn't even have a strong opinion about Miami.
[3:32]It was literally just the emotions that she experienced in that moment, we'll play it back again.
[3:36]How do you like Miami? I love Miami. Do you? Yeah, why you why'd you make that face?
[3:44]You don't like it? I like it. It's okay. Getting in close, holding that eye contact, holding those pauses.
[3:51]But it's also it's it's dropping down your voice. Notice how my communication changed. I didn't say, I love Barcelona or I love Barcelona.
[3:58]No, like that's not flirty, that's not going to create tension.
[4:01]I pause and I tilt my head, I was like, no, I, I love Miami. And she couldn't hold the tension.
[4:09]She actually nervously broke away. Most guys that aren't good at creating tension, they nervously laugh and they break the eye contact, they break the tension,
[4:18]as a means of avoiding it because it's slightly uncomfortable when you could be the confident guy who's very relaxed and just dominating with your eye contact and your non-verbals.
[4:26]The women start to crumble in those moments, they get a little giddy and spastic even, like how she just did, and I promise you that sparks emotion in your interactions.
[4:36]Now, if you've never seen yourself on camera and you've never gotten coaching and you've never heard the recordings of your interactions, there is no way you could actually master this skill blindly.
[4:44]That's like watching YouTube and think you're going to suddenly be a a black belt fighter or watching YouTube and then suddenly you're going to go perform surgery on somebody.
[4:53]This takes skill, this is an expertise, this requires coaching and subtle nuance to your conversation techniques. If you really want to be able to spark attraction at will in your interactions with women.
[5:03]So if you want to work with me directly, the link is down below. You can fill out an application, book out a free consultation call with me directly. That's all for this video, fellas.
[5:11]Peace out.
