[0:00]Hey guys, welcome back to my channel Marie from the Philippines. And this video, I have a very great friend here, my guest, as you see, the two beautiful ladies. Laya and Chacha. Hi guys. So, hi Chacha and Laya, how are you guys doing? Good, great. Awesome. Good to hear that. So today in this video, we're going to talk about the relationship of a foreigner and Filipino. So Laya and Chacha, can you guys please introduce yourself? Hey guys, so my name is Laya. Uh I live in Dumaguete and I am 24 years old, the mother of two and a housewife. Thank you. Uh please Chacha. Hey guys, my name is Chacha, the Moreno Filipino, or you can call me Charity. Um single parent. Um just recently lost my partner and I'm 32 this year. Where did you met your husband by the way? Uh on a dating app. And how about you Chacha, where did you Oh yeah, go ahead, continue. Uh how did you meet your partner? Well, uh first of all, um I am I don't have I'm a single right now and um my partner just passed away four months uh wait. March. Eight months. March, April, May. Three, three more months and then one year na. How was your life before and after you met your partner?
[1:48]I'll go first because I have a partner. Okay. My life before I was a single mom. Yeah. How was that? How was your life as a single mom? Very hard. Yes, very hard to raise a child without a partner. Yes, I had to leave my daughter to, you know, to my mom just so I can find work and provide for her. That was very hard. But now, like my life now is I feel complete, you know?
[2:17]I can be with my kids. I can uh uh do my duty for for them. At the same time, I can do take care of my husband at the same time, you know, so it's perfect. Like, I I feel complete. Yeah. Nice. How about you, Chacha? Um for me, um back when I still have my partner, and before I met him, I have a good life. Well, yeah, I I I'm not um I may not have the complete appliances that I have back home. I don't have my own house, but I am able to support my I'm also a single mother, so before I met Dave, I can uh I have a good job. I'm able to support what my daughter needs. It's just that I am not the one who's looking after her. Yes. Yes. So it's my mom who look after her, so I really don't have time to focus because I need to go to the office. And um yeah, so when I had my partner, Dave, uh we live together and um being an Americ- kind of like a married life. Um it was, yeah, happy and um perfect. Like, you know, you couldn't ask for more if you have a partner and um yeah, it's really good to uh it's it feels different when you are a wife focused to be just a wife than um focus on earning money and at the same time, look as a mother. You have to be as a mother to as well. Right. So, why is foreigner? Why um why you choose foreigner instead of Filipino? Dakku pagka gukma. They have huge love. Full of love. Okay.
[4:10]Joke ra 'to. So, what why why foreigner instead of Filipino? Well, me, like you know, when I was looking back then, before I met my husband, I tried Filipino, actually. I don't really, you know, go specifically looking for foreigner. I tried Filipino, but no one really wanted to date me because I guess my skin. It's just my beauty. It doesn't fit to Filipino standards. So especially I have a child also. Like, Filipino don't want to deal with that. Yes, yes. Most, sorry. Most single mothers are being discriminated because of that. Exactly. So, you know, why not try, you know, much with foreigner. And yeah, Gary is the first foreigner I contact online. I I actually now, that's that's that's not right. I have talked to some foreigners as well, but not really like doing video call. Just chat what as soon as I told them, I have a child, some of them that will ghost me. So Gary is only one who understand and accept it. Yes, exactly, find interested. So yes, yeah, umm.
[5:24]Unsa 'y imong pangutana nimo? Yes, so I didn't really, you know, specifically looking for foreigner. It's just comes that, you know, Yes, it's destiny. Yeah, we're meant to be together. I'm happy to hear that for you. Yeah, thank you. How about you, Chacha? Um, well, why I choose I chose to be with a foreigner than in Filipino. Um, yeah, that's that's the same thing. What I felt before was like, I feel like I'm not attractive enough for for especially my skin complexion and my personality. I feel like I'm not attractive enough for a Filipino. Even when I was in high school, I didn't really have a boyfriend, like never experienced having that um relationship. So, I felt like I'm unattractive and Yeah, um no nobody really, nobody really asked me to, you know, be with them. Even when I was in college, especially that I was um I already have a daughter. I think it went worse.
[6:39]You become a victim? Well, yeah, something like that. I mean, yeah, it's it's different story, but kind of also a fault, my fault as well. It's not just him, but he's a womanizer, so yeah. So that's one of the reason why um I choose to be with a foreigner. And also I want to have a kids. With a foreigner. Who's, you know, Yeah, who don't want that. Yeah, I want to have like a cute baby. I mean, my daughter is beautiful. So I'm pretty sure that if I will have a uh a foreign blood. Yeah. Baby. That's why I met me, I wanted to be with a foreigner because of the beauty of the kids. Because like It's not really, sorry. It's not really just about the money. Yeah, exactly. It's not really about the money. It's already given. We know that we can afford provide. But any women, even in other country, you know, why is there any women want to date a man that is broke? Right. Is not stable, financially stable. Yes. It's fine to date someone that doesn't have much, but as long as he's still making an effort to improve the lifestyle. Yes. As long as they're able to provide, you know. Of course, nobody want to be, you know, with a yeah, as she said, lazy guy that cannot provide financially. And yeah, also that's the reason also for me why I like to be with a foreigner. First is because of the beauty of the kids. And as you said, uh financially it's already given, it should be already there. And also, they know about the word responsibility. Because um most foreigners, I guess, not everyone, but so far, like at least 90%, they know about our responsibility than Filipino. Exactly. Yeah.
[8:27]So, yeah. What is the perfect age gap to a relationship with a Filipino and a foreigner? Um for me there's no exact age gap or perfect age gap, really. Because um if you because just like what my uh my partner and I, um I was 31 and he was like about 72 when we met. And so um yeah, uh for me, he he was the right guy. I mean, there's few boyfriend I had experience with before, but not as big gap as he we had. So, um yeah, um I don't think there's really perfect.
[9:10]It's the person that you can um it's the characteristic or the the person that you can say, he's the perfect. He's the perfect um man for you. So there's no it doesn't matter about the age gap. I would say love knows no age. My age gap and my husband between us, we have 38 years age gap. And I think any age, they can just fall in love, you know, as long as they have respect for each other, like they're ready. As long as they're at the legal age. Yes, a legal age. Yeah, exactly. That's a good point. So, yeah, as long as, you know, you respect your partner, there's nothing really, I would not put numbers when it comes to love. As long as you mentioned maturity. Yes, maturity. The Filipino is mature enough, and uh she's not under 18. So, it's fine. I guess um for Filipinos, I guess like some, it does. I guess like we Filipino, when they are with a the old Filipino, it's like it's not really common in the the Philippines, I guess. But for a young Filipino with a old foreigners, it's going to like acceptable. It's like it's fine. So, what can you say about that? Like, why why is that? Why Yeah, I completely understand. But um there are also Filipinos who really don't like seeing they're they're being judgmental with the Filipina and um having an old old foreign guy with her or Filipino. Yeah, um I guess, well, what I can say about that is I think uh Filipino, we don't date older Filipino is because most Filipino, like after 40s, they're already married. They have family and we don't want to get involved uh by dating a married man and that, you know, the Philippines, like, there's no divorce. There's uh uh annullment, but it takes time. So, if you see a Filipino after like 30s or 40s up, you already assume that he's married or he got kids or family and they're going to attack you or, you know, send you in jail. So, no one want to deal with that. So, yeah, that's the reason, I think.
[11:35]Okay. So, how old is too old for you or how young is too young for you? For me, there's no age. Yeah, there's no age. Oh yeah, as long as like there's a physical attraction, like, yeah, that's too old if, you know, you're not attractive to me. I don't know if it's the number. I'm not going to date 90 years old. Oh yes, yeah, that's you know, my partner, Dave, was like 70 years old, but 75 years old, but he was fit for his age and he doesn't seem to look like sloppy or weak and, you know, so, yeah. As long as he's still active, he can do the things I can do like Gary. He's 62. Yeah, I think, yeah, that's right. He's 62, but he still goes to the gym with me.
[12:28]He still can probably walk faster than me. Like, you know, yeah, as long as, yeah, and there also attraction, it's very important that you find your partner attractive to you. Right. Yeah, so, I guess, yes, that's it. You know. What you like and dislike about the Filipino and also about the foreigners. Let's start with Filipino first. Yeah, I'm not trying to generalize all the Filipino, but a lot of them, they're not really responsible. Like, look at how many single mom in the Philippines that, you know, most Filipino don't support their children just, you know, left and go find another girl. So, that's something I dislike about Filipinos, but not all because I still know a lot of Filipino that is responsible when it comes to their children and they're still loyal. But, yeah, I think one of the things is really the unfaithful. Yeah. Foreigners. Foreigners. I dislike about foreigners. Um, it's really different because there's a good foreigners. There's bad foreigners. So, you I would not really general every person is different, really. So, I would not say, but like my husband, what do I do I dislike about him?
[13:45]I think, like, umm dislike. Everyone have their own problem. Even us, we have. We're not perfect. We have our own issues as well. So, I think. Exactly. It's just that how, you know, you accept your partner's flaws and do the same thing as well. So, I think they most foreigners, they find it hard to adjust here in the Philippines, like when it comes to line. They have to like, you know, my husband still find it hard to adjust. Like, you know, like the process in the Philippines, the papers. He find it irritating, but, you know, yeah, for us, it feel, we feel pressure. We need to be there to really calm them down sometimes, in some, you know, sometimes. So, yes, it's that's something I dislike. So, how about it's understandable. Yeah. Yeah. So, what you like about Filipinos and foreigners? What do I like about Filipinos? I don't know. Are they sweet and loving? They're loving and sweet. But it's just the integrity. If they're really nice because they want something, maybe sometimes. You know, but you know, we are welcoming. That's a what I like about Filipinos. We are friendly. We have a good heart. Like, you know, if we see people uh hungry on the street, we we feel guilty if we don't give in something to them. So, I guess that's what I like. And about foreigners, they are. How about you, Chacha? What are the things that you like and dislike about the Filipino and foreigners? It's a general, by the way. Um, actually, both foreigner and Filipinos are judgmental, but not all. Um, most, most foreigner, uh most Filipino, they're close-minded. And, yeah, uh that's what that's why sometimes, um in a couple, they clash or they, yeah, they that's where they do not really meet because the open-mindedness of the other person and the closed-mindedness of the other person. And most Filipinos, most of us are very jealous. Right. We we want, yeah, just like what you said before, if we're like very territorial with our partner. And um most foreigners are like easygoing.
[16:24]They trust their partner. They can just go, you know, with friends. And here in the Philippines, we're not like that. We're not like that. So, yeah. That's one of the things that I think the difference between foreigners and Filipino. Exactly. I want, you know, you guys to give some advice to our subscribers, to our supporters right now, who's watching our videos. Uh what can you advise about those people that are just dating now? Be patient. You know, be patient and, um, what else? Pursue your Filipina, um, be yourself. Be yourself. Like, you know, like, um, yeah, you're the one to die. For me, my advice to those foreign men who are dating a Filipina, be patient. And learn the culture. Learn how to speak their language. Because, um, the the more you, because it's so hard that the Filipina is just is the one who's adjusting, learning the language. You should as a partner. You should also learn the language. Even just a little. Make an effort. Um, show that you care for the culture and the family. And, um, yeah. So, that's also another thing that you have to do when you are dating. Um, um, what else? Be patient. Don't rush. Right. Absolutely no rush. Um, what else?
[18:04]Yeah. And also be respectful and be honest to each other. And don't take advantage as well to each other. And the number one is be wise of choosing. And another thing that I want to add. Um, do not just, you know, don't just give material things to your Filipina. Right away. Yeah. You know, giving her phone. Next week, then the next week. That's how you are. I mean, it's good to spoil your Filipina, but not to a point that, um, you have just started dating her. You have just started meeting her. Don't just give her, oh, I'll give you a phone. I'll give you this. Give her chocolates. If she doesn't like chocolates, give her teddy bear. Give her card. Give her attention. And see if she appreciate those things. Because because, yeah, and if she appreciate it, then it's a green flag for her. Yes, exactly. Because there are some girls that don't appreciate those little things like, it's like, oh, she's he's too, you know, cheap or something. Like, they will expect more. But, but if the Filipina would say, um, please don't give me material things, because I'm shy or I'm not used to it. And I guess that's a great red flag. Yes. Because, um, she's not really that materialistic. But, of course, there are times that, of yeah, we want it we're just shy. Yeah. We're just shy. But, um, again, be no rush. That's that's one. Yeah. This is my advice for you. And what I can add is about the material thing give for the Filipina. Because if you used to give them like phones or laptop or whatever and the gadgets like material thing, they will expect more than that. And then when you give something like a bit cheap for them, then they will like, oh, you know, he's become cheap or something. Like, they will expect more. Sorry. Go ahead, sorry. And for me, and for me, um, it feels like in on Filipinas and if she's receiving all those kind of material things, for me, I will, I would feel pressure of like, um, forcing myself to love the other person because I will feel guilty. I'm not going to, um, you know, return the kind of love that he's giving. So, I would feel pressure if if that would happen to me. Yeah, I agree. What's your advice, now? Yeah, you've said it, uh most of it. And, uh, just to add about, you know, material stuff. Yes, I totally agree. Make your Filipina to like you for who you are and not on what you're giving to her. Because she will feel in love with the material things and not you. Yes, that's the big mistake that, uh, a lot of foreigner make. You know, they try to buy lots of material stuff to make the Filipina to like him. Fill in love. Yes. To feel love. And that's not how you do things. Well, you can do that once you guys already in a serious relationship, like you know for sure she's the one. Because if you give a lot of things, she would not appreciate it much. Like if, but if you give her, uh, like, you know, simple stuff, like, like, you know, she would appreciate it more. You know, if you don't give in a lot, like, yeah, so that's my advice and don't rush, you know, and be patient with your Filipina. Dating a different, uh, you know, what do you call that, a different race, definitely you have to have patience adjusting the culture. You know, because it's hard to communicate, really. It's really hard. Communication is very very hard when you're dating, uh different race or nationality, especially, we don't speak, that's not our first language. You know, English. So, most Filipina, they find it hard to adjust. Yeah. So, be respectful and, uh, learn as well as what you said, learn the culture, very important. And I said, um, like if you give too much material thing, like especially fancy expensive things, uh as you said, we feel guilty, you know, and also we feel trapped, you know, because we felt too shy to leave them because like, oh, he's already expressed. Giving me Yes, yes, and we felt so serious. And also the thing is, don't buy her, uh, material things, expensive things if at the end, if you guys not work, and then you'll like, oh, I bought you this. I bought that. That. That. Like, how to say that in It's a trap. Yeah, at at at it's a trap. We're going to do a video about that. Feel guilty. If we Filipina, we feel felt, you know, then guilty. Yeah. Right. So, yeah. That's what we are trying to avoid about that as well. So, anyway, um, that's it for today's video. And Chacha and Laya, thank you so much. Thank you for having us. You can Hi guys. So, Chacha the Moreno Filipina on YouTube and, um, yeah. Thank you so much for supporting. Love you. Yes, Filipino family life with Laya. Thank you so much for all your support. So, yeah, thank you guys for watching. I hope you enjoy watching this video till the end. And thank you. Bye.
