[0:00]Jee, Assalamu Alaikum friends. Kya hal hai? Ummeed hai aap sab khairiyat se honge. Achcha, ab aap logon ki farmaish ke upar, bilkul aapki request ke upar main NLP ke upar ek poora program start karne ja raha hoon.
[0:17]Jo ke taqreeban koi 40 to 50 lectures ke upar mushtamil hoga and every Sunday ye aapke liye available hoga. Har class main doonga. Har Sunday ko ye video available hogi YouTube pe aur Facebook, dono pe.
[0:32]Toh iske upar hum inshaallah start karenge. Aaj hamara pehla lecture hoga. Aur woh hoga ke sirf NLP ka introduction kya hai. NLP kise kehte hain.
[0:44]Ya jise hum Neurolinguistic Programming kehte hain, isko kya kehte hain. Toh bahut se log jo mujhe nahi jaante, unke liye main thoda sa introduction apna karwa deta hoon. Mera naam Dr. Rafeeq hai.
[0:57]Aur basically main neuropsychologist hoon. Aur maine neuropsychology jo hai woh 2013 mein University of Strasbourg, France se maine isme doctorate kiya.
[1:10]Aur isse pehle maine ek European joint master kiya. European joint master ka matlab ye hai ke this master program was jointly by three European universities.
[1:23]Aur jo ke neuropsychology mein specialization maine ki. And after that, I also have another master in Neuro Rehabilitation and Neuropsychology from Isabel University, Spain.
[1:37]In addition to that, I have few certifications and diplomas relating to mind sciences. Like I have an advanced diploma in clinical hypnosis from Hypnosis Motivation Institute, California.
[1:51]And after that, I have an advanced diploma in handwriting analysis. Handwriting analysis ke hawale se main batata chaloon ke if you can look at the handwriting of any person,
[2:00]aap uska character bata sakte hain, aap uski personality bata sakte hain, aap uske different behaviours bata sakte hain. Sirf agar aap uska handwriting sample ko analyze kar le.
[2:10]Toh inshaallah iske upar bhi main ek ek YouTube ke upar program karunga. And in addition to that, I am a certified NLP practitioner by American Board of NLP.
[2:21]And I have more than more than 13 years of experience in in teaching and training as well. Toh maine thoda sa late join kar raha hoon Facebook ko aur YouTube ke upar.
[2:33]Mujhe bahut se doston ne kaha ke aap nahi aap YouTube ke upar aayein aur iske upar kindly aap start karein. Toh aapki mohabbat hai, main I am really thankful ke aap meri videos ko dekhte hain aur pasand bhi karte hain aur comment bhi karte hain.
[2:47]Toh inshaallah ye silsila chalta rahega. Toh aaj main pehli formal jo video bana raha hoon NLP ke upar. Bilkul slide ke saath bhi aapko slides bhi saath milengi inshaallah.
[2:57]Toh iske upar main inshaallah video bana raha hoon. Sabse pehle agar hum aayein, toh NLP ki jo hamari poora ye program rahega NLP ke upar, isme hum teen major cheezon ko discuss karenge.
[3:07]Aur ye teen cheezein jo aap slide mein dekh rahe hain, ye taqreeban 40 lectures ke upar mushtamil hongi ye saari cheezein. Isme sabse pehle main aapko background of NLP bataunga, basics of NLP kya hai.
[3:19]Phir is tarah principles of NLP kya hain. Toh phir basic hum uski taraf jaayenge ke NLP mein jitni bhi techniques hain.
[3:26]Aur har technique ki hum implications ki taraf jaayenge, woh technique aap kis liye use karte hain, kaise use karte hain. Toh ye poora program jo hai ye inshaallah chala.
[3:37]Isme sabse pehle agar aapko main bataun ke thoda sa history ki hum baat kar lete hain ke NLP ki history kya hai. Dekhein, ye do bade important jo person aap dekh rahe hain, isme sabse pehle ek linguistic ke professor the.
[3:51]Balki abhi bhi hain, jinhone ye NLP ko discover kiya. Unka naam John Grinder hai. Aur dusre iske friend the, Richard Bandler, ye psychology ke student hain.
[4:03]Toh ye California University ke andar jo hai na woh inki aapas mein ek friendship bhi thi aur ab inhone kya kiya ke ek banda ab isme psychology ka hai jo Richard Bandler hai, woh psychology ka professor hai.
[4:16]Ab John Grinder jo hain woh linguistic ke professor hain. Area different hain lekin aapas mein link bhi karte hain. Ab ye informally jo hai na woh discuss kiya karte the ke like aise kaise ho jata hai.
[4:30]Ke ek hi University mein padhe log ek hi syllabus pada ho jinhone lekin unki performance different ho. Woh different perform kar rahe hain. Iski kya wajah ho sakti hai.
[4:44]Like un dinon mein ye koi 1970 ka, 1970 ki baat hai. Toh un dinon America ke andar teen important jo psychologists the,
[4:56]Jo psychology ko practice kar rahe the, jo counselling ke session dete the. Un mein se ek Fritz Perls hain. Ye ek psychology mein badi important intervention hoti hai jise hum Gestalt therapy kehte hain.
[5:09]Iske saath-saath ek aur professor thi, Virginia Satir. Ye family therapy mein badi specialized rakhti hain aur ye founder bhi hain family therapy ki. Aur inke alawa ek aur professor the jinka naam Milton Erickson hai, yaani ke jo hypnosis ke andar mahir hain.
[5:24]Inke naam ke upar na, he is also founder of the Ericksonian Hypnosis. Ab ye jo teen log the na California mein toh ye Richard Bandler aur John Grinder inke bare mein bade inspired the ke yaar logon ko inse bada fayda hota hai.
[5:38]Halanki bahut se aur professor bhi hain jinhone psychology padi hai lekin unse inko koi fayda nahi hota. Toh iske peeche reason kya hai. Ye kyun aise hota hai ke kuch logon se bade log satisfy hote hain lekin kuch logon se nahi hota.
[5:52]Ab inhone kya kiya ke inhone unko study karna shuru kar diya ke ye kaam kaise karte hain. Yaani ke inhone unke upar studies ki, unko observe kiya.
[6:03]Unko zaahir hai unki se permission ke saath unko study, unka behaviour study karne ki koshish ki inhone. Jab inhone unka behaviour study kiya, toh interestingly main aapko bataun.
[6:14]Inhone kya dekha ke ye jo teen professor the, ya psychologists the, ye jis tarah ka koi insaan aata tha, usi tarah apne aap ko change karke unse baat karte the.
[6:26]Ye ek tone ke saath, ek style ke saath sab ke saath nahi milte the. Jo sabse badi wajah thi. Ab inhone mazeed inke upar ek research ki.
[6:38]Ke ye kis tarah ka person aaye to kis tarah behave karte hain, kis tarah ka person aaye to kis tarah behave karte hain, kis tarah ka person aaye to kis tone mein baat karte hain.
[6:49]Kis tarah ka person aaye to ye kaun si strategy istemal karte hain. Toh inhone kya kiya, do important cheezein note ki.
[6:58]Ke ek toh ye har bande ke mutabiq baat karte hain. Aur zaahir hai unki bhi ek apni personality hogi lekin inme sabse ye badi khoobi thi ke unke mutabiq jab obviously karte the toh unke mutabiq change bhi ho jate the.
[7:11]Toh sabse jo badi cheez inhone note ki ek toh ye agle logon ko understand karte hain. Phir apne aap ko change karte hain jiski wajah se unke andar change bahut aata hai. Unki life ke andar bahut change aata hai, unki mental well-being ho. Unke andar bahut change aata hai.
[7:27]Toh uske baad is research ke baad inhone na, ek communication ka model diya. Yaani ke inhone kaha ke hum kya kar rahe hain ke in teen professors ki jo baat karne ki approach hai usko hum copy kar rahe hain.
[7:42]Usko hum model kar rahe hain. Ab us poori modelling ko inhone ek naam diya jise hum Neuro-Linguistic Programming kehte hain.
[7:51]Ab ye toh iski thodi si history maine aapko bata di. Ab main aapko aage batata hoon ke NLP basically hai kya, jis tarah it's a combination of three words. Isme ek Neuro hai, ek Linguistic hai aur teesra Programming.
[8:06]Ab ye iski definition hai. Ab isme sabse pehle hum janne ki koshish karte hain. Pehli baat toh ye samajh lein, pehle main aapko bata doon ke ye NLP communication se related ek science hai.
[8:18]Balki isko science bhi nahi kehte. Bahut se log mere se question kehte hain ke hum Google karein toh NLP ek pseudoscience hai. Ha, obviously ye pseudoscience hi hai.
[8:27]Lekin ye science nahi, ye art hai. Communication ka art hai ke agar aap kis tarah communicate karein toh achchi effective communication ho sakti hai. Toh mera khayal hai ke NLP se behtareen jo art hai na communication ka woh abhi tak maine nahi dekha.
[8:43]Toh ab NLP ki definition ki taraf main aata hoon ke NLP ko define aap kaise karte hain. Dekhein, NLP stands for Neurolinguistic and Programming. Sabse pehle agar aapki ijazat ho toh hum Neuro ko samjhne ki koshish karte hain, Neuro hai kya cheez. Dekhein, Neuro ye aapke brain ko indicate karta hai.
[9:02]Brain ko indicate karta hai. Iska matlab ye hai ke jab bhi aap apne brain ke andar koi message aapke brain ke andar aata hai toh brain usko process karta hai.
[9:14]Ab aapko pata ye bhi hona chahiye ke aapke brain ke andar jo information aa rahi hoti hain, woh basically five different senses se aa rahi hoti hain. Isme ek visual sense hai, ek auditory sense hai, jo sunne ki sense hai, ek kinesthetic sense hai jo hum touch ki sense kehte hain.
[9:29]Ek olfactory sense hai, yaani ke smell ki jo sense hai. Ek is tarah gustatory, yaani ke taste ki sense hai. Toh jab bhi aapke brain ke andar koi information pehle jaati hai, five basic senses se jaati hai.
[9:54]Five basic senses jab in se aap information le ke brain mein jate hain, toh brain usko process karta hai ke isme hai kya cheez. For example, jab aap kisi ko hi kehte hain.
[10:05]Toh woh sunta hai ya aapko dekh bhi raha hota hai. Toh hi andar se process hone ke baad dimaag andar ek dimaag answer banata hai.
[10:17]Jab ek dimaag andar answer banata hai na, toh ek andar answer ban jata hai. Aur jisko hum NLP ki language mein internal representation kehte hain ki hamare dimaag ke andar ek answer ban gaya hai.
[10:29]Ab masla pata kahan aata hai. Ke sometime answer andar theek hota hai. Aur usko jab hum language ke zariye bahar nikalte hain.
[10:37]Toh woh different ho jata hai, woh bahar nikalte hue change ho jata hai jab tak next person tak pahunchta hai, woh waise nahi hota jaise hum chah rahe hote hain. Ab andar tak jo message ka prepare hona ye Neuro ka kaam hai.
[10:50]Yaani ke message ko receive karna, usko process karna aur andar ek answer bana lena, usko hum Neuro kehte hain. Ab Neuro ke baad kya hota hai. Neuro ke baad humne us answer ko bahar nikalna hota hai jise hum language kehte hain.
[11:04]Ab answer jab hum de rahe hote hain, koi andar wali cheez bahar kisi ko bata rahe hote hain. Usme hum words ka bhi istemal karte hain. Koi cheez show bhi kar sakte hain. Koi aap body language ka bhi istemal karte hain. Toh jis shakal mein aap us answer ko bahar nikal rahe hain, usko hum language kehte hain.
[11:22]Lekin masla ye hota hai ke exact jaise maine aapko bataya ke exact jaise aapke brain mein koi answer pada hua hai, usko nikalte hue hum sahi nahi nikalte. Sahi do tarah se nahi nikalte.
[11:33]Ya toh hum agle ki pasand ke mutabiq nahi nikalte. Ya hum hamari body language mein koi problem hota hai jiski wajah se woh answer aage nahi jaata. Lekin sabse jo bada problem ye hota hai.
[11:47]Ke hum agle bande ko samjhte nahi hain. Ke next person kis type ka hai toh humein kis tarah answer dena chahiye. Ab apne aap ko, aapka ye jo behaviour pattern hai.
[12:00]Jo jis tarah hum kisi ko answer dena chahiye, jis ke mutabiq dena chahiye woh hum nahi de pate. Jisko hum programming kehte hain. Iska matlab hamare andar koi ek cheez aisi hai jo kami hai. Dekhein, basically kami koi nahi hoti.
[12:14]Lekin hum next person ke mutabiq apne aap ko change karke nahi de rahe hote. Toh jin logon mein ye ability ho ke woh kisi ko understand kar sakein. Aur uske mutabiq ek answer de sakein jo unke har baat, ek baat note kar lein ke har insaan ke jo dimaag mein answer pada hota hai woh right hi hota hai.
[12:35]Aksar aap ne dekha hoga ke kai log aapse kehte hain ke nahi, maine toh maine toh aapse kuch nahi kaha. Lekin woh next person keh raha hota hai ke nahi nahi aap aapko aise nahi karna chahiye tha. Ab masla ye hai ke jaise aapne next person ko koi baat kahi, aapne theek aapko theek lag raha hai, aapne kahiye.
[12:53]Lekin usko theek nahi lag raha hota. Kyun theek nahi lag raha hota. Uska mindset aap se different ho sakta hai. Jis tarah aapne usko baat kehni thi aapne nahi ki. Toh iska kya matlab hai.
[13:05]Ke aap jab answer andar se answer bahar de rahe hote hain, toh jis language se aapko next person ko dena, aap usme nahi de rahe hote. Jiski wajah se woh aap pe trust nahi karta, aapke saath relationship mein problem ho sakta hai.
[13:18]Theek hai. Aap kisi ko concept nahi samjha sakte agar main teaching ki baat karoon ya training ke dauran aap kisi ko influence nahi kar sakte.
[13:27]Toh aapne karna kya hai? Aapne programming ke upar kaam karna hai. Ab programming basically kya hota hai. Programming ka matlab ye hota hai ke teesri jo cheez hai Neuro, mean brain wali cheez jo jo information ko process karta hai, language mean andar ka jo answer banta hai,
[13:40]Neuro jo banata hai, usko bahar leke jana. Aur programming ka matlab ye hota hai ke agar aap andar wala answer as such hi bahar le aayein jaise andar pada hai aur next person tak aise hi pahuche jaise woh chahta hai.
[13:56]Is ability ko hum programming kehte hain ya is language style ya pattern ko hum programming kehte hain. For example, main aapko ek aur angle se aapko samjhane ki koshish karta hoon.
[14:06]Dekhein, yahan pe toh maine NLP ko define kar diya. Saada lafzon mein NLP kya hai. Ke NLP ek aisa art hai jis mein hum kya karte hain.
[14:16]Next person ke mutabiq hum communicate karte hain. Ab woh kaise karenge. Pehle apne aap ko samjhenge, phir usko samjhenge. Phir jitni aapko change karni padegi, aap woh cheez change karke next person ko aap usi tarah transfer kar denge. Toh is ability ko hum Neuro-Linguistic Programming kehte hain.
[14:36]Saada lafzon mein. Achcha, main ek aur angle se aapko samjhane ki koshish karta hoon. Dekhein, iska matlab phir ye hua. Ke NLP ek change hai.
[14:45]Yaani ke agar aap chahte hain ke meri baat next person ko samajh jaye. Toh yaani main ye chah raha hoon, meri current state ye hai ke woh banda samajh nahi raha. Lekin maine ek aise tareeqe se cheez adaa ki ya maine communicate kiya ke usko samajh aa gayi.
[15:03]Iska matlab hai ke NLP basically is an art of change through communication. And agar change ho rahi hai toh isko hum success kehte hain. For example, koi rootha hua insaan aapse rootha, aap usko is tareeqe se baat karte hain ke woh maan jata hai. Toh kya ye success nahi hai. Success hai.
[15:19]Koi student jo hai woh concept usko samajh nahi aa raha. Lekin aap aise tareeqe se usko concept samjhayenge ke usko samajh aa jayega. Iska matlab relationship mein, teaching mein, ya even psychological intervention ke andar.
[15:32]Yaani ke jo psychologically distorted client hai ya mentally weak hai ya use koi issue hai. Toh woh conceptualize nahi kar pa raha kisi cheez ko. Aap usko ek achha meaning denge toh woh ho sakta hai heal up ho jaye. Toh isi tarah NLP is an art of change.
[15:44]NLP is an art of communication. NLP is an art of success. Toh isko hum bade tareeqe se define karte jayenge inshaallah. Next slideon mein main NLP ki aur definitions inshaallah aapko bataunga. Lekin main aapki ijazat se NLP ko ek aur tareeqe se hum study karna chahte hain.
[16:01]Jise main NLP ko simple bataya kya hai, NLP is a change. Kyun, ke ye aapki current state ko desired state mein change kar deti hai jo aap chahte hain. Ab isme hota kya hai. Hum communicate kaise karte hain.
[16:13]Jis tarah maine aapko bataya ke koi bhi response dene se pehle hum bahar se kuch information lete hain. Jise hum external events bhi kehte hain ya external information bhi kehte hain. Ke jab aapke mind mein jati hain na, toh aapka mind usko filter karta hai.
[16:30]Filter hone ke baad jaise maine aapko pehle bataya ke andar ek decision banta hai. Andar ek answer andar hi ban jata hai. Jise hum internal representation kehte hain. Ab jab internal representation andar ho jati hai, toh isko humne bahar nikalna hota hai language ke zariye.
[16:48]Lekin jab hum bahar nikal rahe hote hain jise hum behaviour bhi kehte hain, toh bahar nikalte hue problem ye aata hai ya toh aap next person ke mutabiq baat nahi karte.
[17:01]Ya aapki physiology aap theek nahi hai, aapki tabiyat theek nahi hai. Toh us wajah se aapka jo internal response hai next person tak nahi pahunchta. Ha, agar aap bilkul theek hain.
[17:10]Lekin phir bhi next person nahi samajh raha, iska ek hi matlab hota hai, aap uske mutabiq baat nahi kar rahe. Toh agar aap kya karein, aapka aapka jo masla hota hai na woh sirf yahan pe hota hai. Sirf aapka masla yahan pe hota hai. Is area mein, ye.
[17:29]Agar aap ye area, is area mein kaam kar lein ke jab language bahar ja rahi ho toh aapne language pe kitna kaam karna hai. Agar aap language ke upar kaam kar lenge, apni programming ke upar kaam kar lenge, toh aap next person ke mutabiq aap answer de payenge aur usko samajh bhi aayegi, usko achha bhi lagega.
[17:51]Aap se influence bhi hoga. Theek hai. Toh this is success ke agar aap kisi ke mutabiq agar aap apni baat kar rahe hain, toh isko hum NLP saada lafzon mein isko hum NLP kehte hain. Agar hum NLP ko dekhein ke NLP ka fayda kya ho sakta hai.
[18:02]Toh NLP jo hai, this is good for communication. Jaise maine aapko bataya ke agar aap next person ke mutabiq agar aap baat unhe karte toh communication hai hi nahi. Phir woh one-sided baat hoti hai.
[18:16]Next person ke mutabiq iska matlab hai aap communicate bilkul nahi kar rahe. Isi tarah aapko teaching mein help kar sakti hai. Isi tarah agar aap isko dekhein toh aapko sales and marketing mein help kar sakti hai.
[18:32]Zahir hai, sales mein kya hota hai ki aap kisi ke saath negotiate karte hain. Toh agar aap achha negotiate kar lete hain, toh aap sale kar sakte hain. Achchi sale kar sakte hain. Agle ke mutabiq aap communication kar rahe hain. Phir relationship ko maintain karne ke liye aapko help mil sakti hai.
[18:46]Isi tarah agar aap dekhein ke NLP ka jo istemal hai, woh psychological aur mental well-being mein bahut important hai. Agar aap kisi ko khush khush karna chahte hain toh NLP can be a good art. Theek hai.
[19:01]Communication jab hogi toh aapke upar log trust karenge, aapko achha lagega, unko achha lagega. Toh in tamam areas mein agar aap NLP seekh rahe hain ya seekhna chahte hain toh mera khayal hai ki inmein se kisi area pe bhi aap kaam karna chahte hain, toh NLP aapko help out kar sakti hai.
[19:19]Isi tarah agar aap NLP ko dekhna chahte hain ke NLP kaise kaam karegi. Jee, agar aap ye dekhna chahte hain ke NLP ko practice karne ke liye, NLP ko practice karne ke liye aapko teen important cheezon ki zarurat hogi.
[19:38]Yaani ke teen bade areas jo main aapko bata raha hoon ke agar aap NLP ko practice karna chahte hain toh aap ye kar lein toh NLP aap bilkul NLP mein mahir ho sakte hain. Usmein sabse jo pehli cheez hai ke aapko NLP presuppositions.
[20:00]Presupposition ka matlab ye hai ke woh kuch aisi baatein jo aapko zehen mein rakh ke chalna padega agar aap NLP ko practice karna chahte hain. Agar aap unko follow nahi karenge. For example, aise hi hai ki agar main biryani banana chahta hoon.
[20:13]Toh mujhe at least pata hona chahiye ke biryani mein kya dalta hai. Agar in cheezon ko hum presupposition kehte hain. Yaani ke agar aap NLP seekhna chahte hain toh kuch aisi baatein, woh main aapko important 12 12 aapko main presupposition bataunga.
[20:30]12 statements aapko bataunga jis ke upar aapne rehna hai. Agar aap rahenge toh aap NLP ko behtareen tareeqe se practice kar sakte hain. Toh unko hum NLP presuppositions kehte hain. Phir next NLP principles.
[20:56]Teesri cheez kya hai ke NLP techniques. Ab NLP ki techniques ko 20 se zyada techniques main inshaallah aapse share karunga. Ke woh kaun si aisi NLP techniques hain jo kahan kahan pe aap istemal karke kaun kaun sa function aap le sakte hain.
[21:13]Dekhein, har technique ka ek apna fayda hoga. Jaise isme different techniques hain jis tarah anchoring hai, agreement hai, reframing hai, swish pattern hai, like to dislike technique hai, timeline therapy hai, circle technique hai. Isi tarah bahut si NLP techniques jo hain woh inshaallah main aapse share karne ja raha hoon.
[21:31]Toh inshaallah aaj ki jo maine aapki class thi usme ye tha ke sirf main aapko bataun ke NLP hai kya cheez. Ye kahan pe istemal hoti hai aur is NLP ko seekhne ke liye aapko kin teen components ki zarurat hai.
[21:46]Woh maine isme inshaallah aapko bataya hai aur aane wali inshaallah lectures ke andar main aapko next connect karunga NLP ko jis tarah presuppositions hain, then principles hain, then hum inshaallah techniques ke upar jayenge. Thank you very much for watching me.
[22:00]And I really enjoy your comments and I really appreciate you like my videos on Facebook as well as YouTube channel. So, any question if you have you can write me in the comments, inshaallah jaise mujhe time milega I will I will answer you in detail. Thank you so much and see you in the next class. Thank you.
