[0:00]Imagine karo tum kisi ground mein cricket khel rahe ho aur tabhi piche se awaz aati hai, hey! Tumhari mummy ek danda liye hue aati hain aur tumhe sabke samne marne lagti hain. Jinke samne tum apne aap ko chauda dikhate ho aur marte marte ghar le jati hain. Sirf isliye ki tum padhai na karke cricket khel rahe ho. Again imagine karo tumhe kisi din kisi vajah se school nahi jaana hai us din. Sabhi bacche school ja chuke hain, time over ho raha hai, but fir bhi tumhari mummy tumhare papa tumhe mar-mar ke school bhej rahe hain. Chalo theek hai, ghar mein mar rahe ho to chal jata hai, but school mein aane ke baad bhi sabhi teacher aur school ke baccho ke samne maare ja rahe ho, maare ja rahe ho. Like har koi dekh raha tha. Bhai kitna embarrassing hoga woh, main 10 saal ka ek chhota sa baccha tha bhai. Script likhte time meri aankhon mein paani aa raha tha, ro nahi raha tha but aankhon mein paani to tha. Ye maine tumhe sirf ek do story batayi hai. Imagine aisi 200 se 300 storiyan bhai jahan tumhe peeta ja raha hai. Publicly ya privately, jo bhi danda, jhadu, kalchul, hatiyar mil raha hai, usse tumhe peeta ja raha hai. Imagine 200 se 300 baar aisi pitayi hui hai, utne mere dono bhai ki pitayi hui hai.
[1:17]Bhayanakar wali. Ye pitayi sirf body pe nahi hoti bhai, ye self-respect, confidence aur trust ko tod deti hai. But bhai, tab ka din hai and aaj ka din hai. Ab mummy mere liye khana lekar aati hain, jo bolta hun bina kisi sawal ke khushi se bana deti hain. Aur kabhi kabhi to bolti hain ki Saurabh, ab kaam mat karo, kitna kaam kar rahe ho? Har ek cheez bhai, and ek bhi jhagda nahi hota. Bhai agar tum kisi bade city se is video ko dekh rahe ho, to tumhare liye toxic parents kya hain? Pata hai, bas daantna ya chillana. But agar tum mere jaise hi kisi chhote se gaon se ho, bilkul hi middle class, low middle class family se ho, to tum is story se relate kar pa rahe hoge. Agar tum gaon se ho, to tumhe bhi kabhi na kabhi kutte ki tarah peeta gaya hoga. Aur jo ghar mein kich-kich hoti hai, uski to main baat hi nahi kar raha. Wo to unlimited hai. Ghar aaram aur peace jaisi honi chahiye, par kayi logon ke liye wahi ghar kisi jail se kam nahi hota. But tab ka din tha and aaj ka din hai. Aaj papa marte nahi hai, daantte nahi hai, bilkul pyar se baat karte hain. Aaj mummy khana lekar aa jati hai, matlab tab bhi lati thi, but aaj koi kich-kich nahi hoti hai. Jab hum mummy sath mein reh rahe hote hain na, kabhi koi maar-peet, koi jhagda, koi bahas, kuch bhi nahi hota. To sawal aata hai, badla kya? Ab tum log bologe ki bhai ab tum bade ho gaye, isliye maarna band ho gaya hoga. To aisa bilkul nahi hai. Kitne saal ka tha us time? 15, 16, 17 saal ka tha, tab bhi pitayi hoti thi. Yahan aisa nahi chalta ki tum bade ho gaye to ab tumhari pitayi nahi hogi. Hamare yahan age is just number hai. Agar tum 20, 22, 24 ke bhi ho na, aur agar koi galti karte ho, to bhi peete jaoge. Lekin maine kuch aise changes kare hain, jisse ab bina kisi tension ke poore focus ke sath kaam kar pata hun. Pehle kya hota tha ki kuch kaam kar raha hun ya padhai kar raha hun, to koi kaam karne ko bol dete the ki ja chakki se aata lekar aa. Koi saman lene bhej deti thi, matlab kuch na kuch karne ko bolti rehti thi, but aaj aisa bilkul nahi hai. Koi kich-kich nahi hoti, pitayi nahi hoti, ladai jhagda mujhse nahi hota. Lekin jab papa aate hain ya mera bhai aata hai, to kich-kich fir se chalu ho jati hai. Bhai ki pitayi fir se hone lagti hai, fir se unhe daant padti hai. But jab sirf main aur mummy reh rahe hote hain, aisa kuch nahi hota. And koi bhi aa jaye, mere aur mummy papa ke beech mein aisa kuch nahi hota. Kyuki maine do aisi changes kari hain, jo papa aur bhai nahi karte, jo ki tum ab janne wale ho is video mein. Aur dusri wali cheez miss mat karna, bahut hi important hai. And sabse pehli cheez hai, khud ko valuable banao. Abhi agar tumhare dost, tumhare teacher, tumhari girlfriend aur tumhare parents ya koi bhi tumhari izzat nahi karta, to iska sabse bada reason yahi hai ki tumhare paas abhi koi value nahi hai. Aur ye line sunne mein thodi hurt karegi, par yahi reality hai. Ab yahin par tumhara question ho sakta hai ki khud ko valuable kaise banaye? Socho, ek 16-17 saal ka ladka hai, roz late uthta hai. School college se aake bas phone, game, reels, na padhai, na responsibility, na result. Ab agar woh ladka apne parents se bole, mujhe youtuber banna hai, mujhe rapper banna hai, mujhe businessman banna hai, to parents kya bolenge? Pagal ho gaya hai kya? Aur bolne se pehle tum marenge, to ghar wale naturally mana karenge. Kyun? Kyunki tumne abhi tak kuch result dikhaya hi nahi hai. Bhai India mein ek kadwa sach hai, 14 se 15 saal ki age mein ladkon par pressure shuru hone lagta hai. Beta future kya hai? Aage jaakar kya karega? Isliye chahe bura lage tumhe, par ek ladke ki value, ek ladke ki izzat paisa hi decide karta hai ki ghar mein aur bahar tumhari kitni value hogi. Iska matlab ye nahi ki sirf paisa hi sab kuch hai, lekin paisa proof hota hai ki tum serious ho aur kuch matter karte ho. Isliye agar tumhe fitness, youtuber, businessman ya rapper banna chahte ho aur ghar wale support nahi kar rahe hain, to ya to unhe batao hi mat aur chhupa ke karo. Ya to unhe proof dikhao tabhi wo tum par trust karenge. Abhi ek saal purani baat hai, jab mera channel grow nahi hua tha, papa keh rahe the mujhse kuch nahi kar paoge. Do teen saal mein yahin tehalte hue nazar aaoge, tab samajh mein aayega, abhi nahi padh rahe ho. In sab ke chakkar mein pade ho, youtuber banne chale ho aur kafi aisi cheeze janne pe parents ka support nahi milta. Aisa nahi hai ki wo tumhara support nahi karte, bhai wo chahte hain tum life mein accha karo. Par unki jo mental limit hai, matlab mentally wo limited hain, jitni unko information mili, jitna unko samajh aaya us hisab se bol rahe hain, khilaf nahi khade hain. Aisa kya karen jisse ghar wale support karen? Jaise maan lo subah pehle deri se uthte the, ab subah jaldi uthne lag jao. Pehle agar bas phone, games aur scrolling kar rahe the, to ab kaam pe focus karne lago. Unhe paisa kama ke dikhao, apne kaam ka result dikhao, to ghar wale bhi notice karte hain ki haan, sala change ho raha hai. Pehle kahan, din bhar sota ya phone use karta tha, but ab kuch kar raha hai. Aur yahin se tum kuch proof dete ho, tab tum bolo mujhe ye karna hai, wo karna hai, mujhe youtuber banna hai. Ab mana karna mushkil hota hai, kyuki ab tum sirf bol nahi rahe ho, balki proof aur result ke sath baat kar rahe ho. And dusri cheez hai, become more masculine. Masculine ka matlab dabang banna nahi, zimmmedari lena hai. Masculine ka kya matlab hai? Protect and provide. Ab protect ka matlab ye nahi ki World War 3 aa jayega, gunde ya aatankwadi aa jayenge tab protect karna hai. Nahi, protect ka chhota chhota matlab bhi hota hai. Example se samjha deta hun. Ek baar ki baat hai, mera ghar ban raha tha aur main kisi kamre mein baitha hun and papa mummy aapas mein baat kar rahe hain. And tabhi papa ke phone par gate yani darwaje lagane wale ka phone aata hai. To papa sahi se baat nahi kar pa rahe the, usse deal nahi kar pa rahe the, to mummy bolti hain. Ye lakdi itne ka thodi aata hai, ye gate mat lo, wo wala sahi rahega. Papa us gate wale se deal nahi kar pa rahe the, to papa ne phone speaker par dalkar mummy ko pakda diya, jo gate ya darwaja banane wala tha usko. Aisa nahi karna chahiye tha papa ko. Kyun? Kyunki aurat nahi chahti kisi aur paraye mard se baat karna. Bhai feminine aurat nahi chahti, wo chahti hai jitna ho sake in cheezo ko avoid kare. And tum mard ho, tum ye sab cheeze deal karo and jhelo. Aise hi papa ke phone par cement aur gitti wale ka call aata hai aur deal nahi kar pate hain to baar baar mummy ko phone pakda dete hain. Kyuki papa utne padhe likhe nahi hain and mummy bhi utna padhi likhi nahi hain, papao ko ye sab nahi pata hai. And mujhe pata hai masculinity ke bare mein, maine phone pakda aur deal wahin close ki. And I knew at the time that papa fucked up. And chalo mummy ne baat kari ya nahi kari, mummy ne call cut kiya. Uske baad papao ko itna sunaya, itna sunaya, main tumhe bata nahi sakta bhai. So that was example jahan papao ko mummy ko protect karna tha, utna hi danger mein daal diye the. Ki lo bhai, kisi paraye mard se baat karo. To aise chhoti chhoti cheeze, road pe chalte time khud right side mein chalna, apne se chhote ya kisi ladki ko unko left side mein rakhna. Kuch saman lana ho, to tum jao. Thandi lag rahi hai unhe, to apna jacket utar kar unhe de dena. Hath pakad lena apni girlfriend ka. This is how you protect. Aisa nahi ki koi war ho raha hai, koi ladai jhagda ho raha hai ya koi kutta hi dauda raha hai, tab tum bachane ja rahe ho, tab tum protect kar rahe ho. Nahi, aisi chhoti chhoti cheeze tumhe study karni padengi, tumhe samajhni padengi. Provide ka kya matlab hai? Dekho, che areas hain jahan se tum women ko provide kar sakte ho. Spiritually, financially, mentally, emotionally, physically aur last sexually. Panch cheeze dekhoge aur abhi ke liye chhatwa chhod do. Jyadatar log bas financially par lage rehte hain, kaam, job, naukri, duty and wo bhi dhhang se nahi hota. So most men can't protect and provide. But maine ye cheez change kar di. Kaise? Main protect karne laga apni mummy ko. Basically, jab bhi koi doodh wala aa raha hai, auto wala aa raha hai, koi umar mein bada ho, wo aa rahe hain ya koi bhi mehman aa raha hai, to hamesha se ye cheeze mummy karti thi. Like har ek cheez. Duty ki wajah se papa rehte nahi ghar par, to bijli wale se har ek insaan se mummy baat kar rahi hain, sab kuch wahi deal kar rahi hain. And female nature ye nahi chahti, to main aage khada hone lag gaya. Main sabse baat karne lag gaya, to ek way mein main unko protect karne lag gaya. Aur ek baat tum apne dimag mein acche se daal lo, agar tum India se ho na, to bhai yahan introvert ya shy hona ek paap hai. Agar tum abhi logo se baat nahi karoge na, to majboori tumhe sikha ke jayegi. Okay, to provide kaise kare? Abhi agar mummy ya papa sabse baat kar rahe hain, to ab tum dheere dheere baat karne lago, unse deal karo. Shuru mein dar lagega, awkward hoga, but yahi hai jo tumhe ek boy se mard banayega. Maine bhi abhi bahut kuch ukhad nahi liya hai. But haan, jab bhi mauka milta hai aur jab bhi kaam se time milta hai, to chhote chhote level par zarur karne ka koshish karta hun. Ye sab jab maine turant karna shuru kiya to iske baad kya changes aaya pata hai? Ab kabhi bhi koi problem hoti hai, mummy papa ke paas nahi jati aur mere do bhai hain, unke paas bhi nahi jati. Ab mummy mere paas aati hain. Pehle ghar mein meri position thi, ye baccha hai, abhi mature nahi hua hai. Aaj ghar mein meri position hai, ye banda sambhal lega. Aur jab ghar walon ko lagta hai ki koi sambhalne wala hai to ghar shant rehta hai aur koi kich-kich nahi hoti hai bhai. So just be more masculine. Aisa hi khana, kapda, mug, geela tauliya is not the problem. The problem is lack of love. Wo aurat jo tumhare liye do decades se, teen decades se khana bana rahi hai bhai. And tumne aaj tak kabhi unke khane ki tariff nahi kiya. Kitna time ho gaya hai apni mummy ya papa ki kisi bhi cheez ki tariff kiye. Kabhi sirf itna bol ke dekho ki mummy aaj khana bahut accha bana hai. Tumhe lagega chhoti si baat hai, lekin unke liye nahi hoti. Mummy aap mere liye itna karti ho, hamare liye itna karti ho. Ek baar tariff nahi kiya tumne, ek baar tumne unhe gale tak nahi lagaya. Par chalo, main tum par gussa nahi kar raha, main tumhari insult nahi kar raha. Kyuki tumhe pata nahi tha, mujhe bhi pata nahi tha. Maine bhi ye sab nahi kiya tha, mujhe kisi creator ne sikhaya hi nahi tha. Maine Hamza jaise self-improvement creator se seekha, to main karne laga. And jab change aaye to ab main chahta hun ki tum karo. Imagine bhai, tumhare baap tumhari padhai ke liye kitna kuch kar rahe hain. Har din wo kitna mehnat kar rahe hain, tumhari mummy har roz khana banati hain. Kitna ye sab hamare liye kar rahi hain, lekin humne kabhi kuch nahi kiya. Ek ladki ke liye hum chocolate kharid rahe hain, uske phone ka recharge kar rahe hain, gifts kharid rahe hain. Us ladki ke liye jisko tumhari kadar bhi nahi hai. Kitne chutiya hain hum log bhai, just because wo ladki hume abhi mili hai, to tumhe lagta hai ki wo mere liye sab kuch hai. Agar ye sab nahi karunga to wo ja bhi sakti hai, wo mujhe pyar karti hai. But mummy papa ka kya? Jab hum paida hue the, tab se hi wo hamara kitna khayal rakhte hain. Chhote the tab se hamari potty wagera saaf kiye hain. Main manta hun ki abhi thoda toxic ho gaye hain aur unka haq bhi banta hai hum par daantne ka. Kyuki hum itne bade ho gaye hain aur wo hamara wait kar rahe hain ki kab hamara beta saari zimmedari sambhalega aur hamare kandhon se thoda bahar kam karega. Hum kisi cheez ki kadar nahi karte bhai, jab kho dete hain na, tab pata chalta hai. Ab jo cheez main batane wala hun bhai, wo India mein bahut hi kam youtuber bata rahe hain. Bhai maine notice kiya hai, women crave attention the way men crave sex. Jis hisab se hum mard sex ke liye pagal rehte hain, usi hisab se auratein attention ke liye pagal rehti hain. Tabhi dekho, ladkiyan reels daal rahi hoti hain, photos post kar rahi hoti hain. Agar kisi photo mein kam likes aate hain aur agle hi pal ek thoda sa sexually matlab jisme unke body ka thoda sa part dikh raha hota hai, us par jyada likes aa jate hain. Aur yahi soch kar ladkiyan aise jisme unki koi body part dikhe wo photo daalti hain, jisse unhe jyada attention mile. Acchi khaasi ghar ki aur sanskari ladkiyan is cheez mein tabah ho jati hain. Wo ladki fir waise cheeze aur karne lag jati hai, kyunki unhe attention ki bhookh hai bhai. Kyunki inhein logon ka attention pana bahut accha lagta hai. Tabhi shadiyon ke liye ye kyun excited hoti hain? Bhai hum laude itne excited nahi hote ki haan shaadi hai, baraat mein jana hai. Whatever, itne excited nahi hote jitni wo hoti hain. Mahine mahine wait karti hain kisi ki shaadi ho, taki wo taiyar ho sake, makeup kar sake, photos daal sake. Aur ho sakta hai ki tumhare, hamare, hum sab ke baap ne bhi bas ignore hi kiya hoga. Matlab unko bhi samajh nahi thi, unki bhi koi galti nahi hai. So love and attention, bhai auraton ko bahut pasand hai. Tum abhi kya kar rahe ho? Khana, mug, kapda kahan rakha hai is par chilla rahe ho. Chappal, joota, ye wo kahan hai, is par bhi chilla rahe ho. Wo problem hi nahi hai. Tum kitna bhi fix kar lo, ek challenge le lo bhai, tum saal din tak mummy ke hisab se sab kuch kar lo, sab kuch perfect kar lo. And wo still chilla rahi hongi, because ye sab dikkat hi nahi hai bhai. Problem hai lack of love and attention. Mummy ko jitna ho sake utni attention do, call karo, video call karo, apni photos send karo. Khali time mein phone chhodkar batein karo unse, unke sath baitho, unki kisi kaam mein help karwao. Unse poocho bhai unka favorite food kya hai, unse poocho ki wo kahan ghumna chahti hain. Bhai bahut logon ko pata hi nahi hota hai ki unke mummy ka favorite food kya hai. Kahan ghumna hai, kahan darshan karna chahti hain, kabhi tumne poocha? Ye bahut sad karne wali baat hai bhai, hume khud par sharam aana chahiye. Bas itna kar lo bhai, toxic se loving nahi ban gayi to mera naam badal dena. Aur main aise hi hawa mein batein nahi karta, jo cheeze maine kari hai usi ke bare mein baat kar raha hun. Aur agar tum 14 se 25 ke beech mein ho aur abhi bhi wahi cycle chal rahi hai, to bhai agar main is video ko short mein summary karun to khud ko valuable banao. Khud ko masculine banao, protect and provide karo, love aur attention do. Isse toxic aur ladai jhagda dheere dheere khatm hone lagega. To agar tumhe ye video pasand aayi hai, to mujhe poora bharosa hai, tumhe ye wali video bhi pasand aayegi, jo ab tumhare screen par aa rahi hai. Click karo, main tumse wahin milta hun. Tab tak ke liye bye.
