[0:00]This is a serious video and I want to give a disclaimer. I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. I'm going to be very blunt with you about all the things that I'm going to say in this video. It's going to be straight from my heart, and I'm not going to be diplomatic. I might say a few things that you might not like, but understand the intention. The intent is to shake you up from within, make you realize a few things. I don't know if this entire video is for you or not, but bits and pieces, something is for everybody. There is a part in this video, I don't know which part, but it is for you. You have to listen to me. This video is important for you. And why you should listen to me, I'll tell you about that too before I actually begin. I feel I'm capable to talk about this topic. How to talk with confidence, how to be articulate. Confident and articulate in 2026. Why I can talk about this? I'll tell you, I have been working on myself. I was a very scared, frightened, sweet, innocent, gullible, cute little girl. Somebody who would, who would not be able to speak. She can just sit in the corner, smile, often not daring to speak a word. I have lived those years in my life. Not really proud of them, but yes, my reality. That girl doesn't exist anymore. She's changed and she's this person now. I can speak to anyone at anytime anywhere. I have that confidence in me. We're not going to talk about my miseries. We're going to be talking about what you've been doing, what you can change, and how 2026 is going to be a defining, career-changing, life-changing year for you and I'm so excited for that new version of you. See, we're talking about choosing the right words, right? What is right, what is not, to choose between that. Your words are actually nothing but a reflection of your mind, your thoughts. And what are your daily thoughts a product of? Let's quickly talk about that too. The data inputs, you cannot output high level ideas if you input low level media. Second is your physiology. Your hardware, your biology dictates your psychology. A tired, inflamed or sedentary body produces anxious and reactive thoughts. Conditioning, the operating system of your body. Your past experiences, trauma, repeated habits form the default code of your brain that runs when you aren't paying attention to your environment. Lastly, your environment, the network of people, the people you surround yourself with, and the physical space you occupy, set the baseline for what your brain considers normal and possible. So now we are clear. Our words are nothing but our thoughts translated into words, right? And our thoughts are dependent on these four factors we just spoke about, the data, your physiology, your conditioning, and your environment. Now I will talk about 15 points which I have observed with my own bare eyes people going wrong in. These are 15 things that a lot of good people, people I truly love and respect make a mistake with. Okay, these are my observations that I've put down. I have my laptop right here. Okay. And I don't have a script, but I do have pointers so that I do not miss something out. And by the way, before I actually start with point number one, I have to say something here. If you make a note of minding these 15 things that I'm going to be talking about and how are you going to remember it, you're going to take, I'll probably put it in a PDF, just check the description of this video. Something I will leave something there for you, okay? Download that or maybe just write these 15 points down on a piece of paper and stick it to your cupboard right in front of you where you sleep. Every day in the morning, the first thing that you see should be those 15 points and I promise you, I promise you, it's going to bring a massive difference in your overall personality, in the way you speak, in the kind of connections you will build, in the way your career will progress. Next year this time, life is going to look different. I promise you that. Let's start with point number one. Humility is knowing your place, low self respect is thinking you have no place. Draw a line between humility and low self respect. I have seen some great people, I truly respect making this mistake. You are polite and over humble with people who do not even deserve that. And people mistake your humility for low self respect. They think that you do not respect yourself and that is why you come wagging your tail now and then when you see them. It's wrong attitude. Stop lying to yourself. Don't tell yourself that you're a good person, no matter somebody walks all over you, you're going to stay and remain the same. No, because you know what? People are going to walk all over you if you do not show them their place. I'm sorry for saying this. I'm sorry, probably this is not something that you expect from me. And probably never something I've spoken about on this channel. I'm sorry about it. But this is something that I've observed too much and a mistake, by the way, that I've made myself a lot in my past. I was nice and extremely polite to people who never took my respect and my behavior with them with grace. They thought that I was somebody who was okay with disrespect. And guess what? They kept disrespecting me because they thought it is possible. It was only when I realized that no, my parents did not raise me to be this person, to be this girl who can be disrespected by any XYZ. Humility is knowing your place, but low self respect means that you think you have no place. Not good for you. And please, sorry about the noise that you're hearing, probably in the background, some kids playing outside. So you get my point. Humility, very good, keep it. You should be a grounded person, but low self-esteem, no. And by the way, your conscience, your inner person will always tell you when somebody is taking you for granted. I've seen people going after their, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm really sorry if you mind this. And I'm really sorry if I'm hurting you right now, but somebody has to say it to you. I just want to be that person. I've seen people running after their exes, exes who would just call them when somebody else has hurt them. So they get a heartbreak and they call you and you are available for them 1:00 AM in the morning. And then you listen to their sob story. And you think they're going to come back to you or they're going to respect you for that? No, girl. No, boy, they're not. They're just using you. They're using your emotional niceness. They're using your depth for their own benefit. There is a limit, you must say a no sometimes and walk out. Point number two, choose yourself first and every day. Now this stems from point number one. Every single day what you have to do is you have to get up and realize that you and only you are the most important person in your life. I know it sounds a bit brutal, it sounds a bit impolite, it sounds selfish. I'm sorry, it's okay to be selfish because if you are it's not actually. Okay, if you want to call it selfish, I'm okay with that, but it's just about drawing a bit of line around you. And telling yourself subconsciously, psychologically every day, that girl, I've got you. I'm there for you. Nobody can hurt you. Stop being that person who cries every day in a corner. I was that person for many, many years of my life. You can see it in my eyes. I'm not lying to you, I've cried a lot. I've cried over people, I've cried over relationships, I've cried over failures. Failures don't, they don't even mean anything to me anymore. I've cried over small losses, small losses of money. I don't know what all I've cried over. Something or the other is always going on with everybody. Nobody is 100% happy and, you know, I read somewhere something that said that, what is a life without a little bit of sadness? And it's okay, you know, it means something. Sadness adds depth to your life, you know, when you're longing for something, for something to come true and then one fine day it actually does come true and you're really happy, celebrating with the people you care about. Yeah, so those days will come in your life too, and have happened in the past and they will come again. But I'm no more that girl who cries every day. I realized growing up, when I was about what, 28, 29 years old, I remember realizing that that you know what, Alina, you've started finding happiness in crying. You're finding solace and calm in crying. And I realized it so late in my life that it was my hormones playing a game with me. And sometimes it was not hormones, it was probably just my ego, I wanted to cry. I probably I just wanted to tell myself that oh my God, my life is so hard, but it was not true. My life was not hard, I was just in my 20s. It's natural for 20s to be a bit difficult. 20s are difficult for most of us because we're figuring things out. We're figuring life out, we've got ambition, we've got aims to fulfill, long, short-term goals, parents to look after, get married, have kids and so much is on our plate. It's hard. But you know what, I realized that I'm lying to myself. The moment I realized that I was just lying to myself, I changed that. I started choosing myself. Now whatever decision lies in front of me, I decide what is good for me and I go ahead with that. Sometimes saying no to something is good for me and I do that. Sometimes saying yes is good, I do that. Sometimes saying no to an event where I'm supposed to be there, I say no if I don't like it. Honestly, I'll tell you a little secret about myself, I like it even more if people don't like me. Not that I intentionally hurt them, I don't, but what I've realized is that when you're not really liked then people think you are very into yourself, self-absorbed and you don't care. Then even little things and little gestures that you do count a lot. And when you're too giving and always giving, always giving. What happens is that people start to take you for granted and they are like anything that you do for them, it will never count. That becomes your for us, it'll come it becomes that. So I'm okay if people don't like me because it makes my life easy. Lesser expectations, more happiness. Simple fundamental. Point number three, zero threshold for crossed boundaries. Disrespect allowed once becomes the new standard. If you tolerate disrespect once, it becomes a new standard, remember that. It can be in the form of little jokes that somebody keeps playing on you, a little something that feels like a joke, but probably they are doing it or saying it with the intent to hurt you and I know that, you know. Back in the day, when I was a little child, I'll tell you a very deep secret, because it's no more true, I've worked out and gotten rid of it. I really had very heavy bottom. I'm so sorry for saying this. I had my lower body was my lower half of the body was very heavy. Okay, I had that kind of a body which you see on Nigerians and, I love, love that kind of a body, by the way.
[12:44]It looks really cool. I said cool, I did not say hot, but yes, I do like it now, but back in the day people used to tease me about it. And I can't tell you, like, it's been what, more than 20 years of me hearing those dialogues, I still remember a few of those. They understood that this is something that bothers her and they did not care that she's just a little child and we shouldn't talk about her physical attributes on her face. It is going to destroy her mental well-being. They never cared about it and they actually went ahead and made fun of it in public, in front of me. I took notes, grew up, worked terribly hard, got rid of it, now no more that problem. I work out really hard, you know. Yeah, I work out. I got rid of it. I'm so confident now in the way I look. But yes, it was a massive, massive, it degraded my confidence, it hurt me so bad. I would look in the mirror all the time, oh my God, how, how am I going to reduce this? Oh my God, I'm so big, what will I do? As a child, that was such a factor in my life for many, many, it was a factor in my life for decades. But you know what, it's a boundary that I've made now. Nobody can comment on my body. I mean, I had to share something with you today and that is why I spoke about the thing I told you, but otherwise I don't appreciate physical comments at all. Now this is like a slight boundary. See, I'm a married woman, I don't want any random XYZ guy to talk about my body with me, I'm sorry. Sometimes you can probably tell me, hey, Alina, you've started to look much better, your workout is showing. That much is okay, but talking about my curves with me, I'm sorry, I'm not going to take it. So there are boundaries that you draw and if you don't draw the boundaries, you are setting new standards, always remember that. 2026, change that about yourself. If you're a girl, you don't like a certain type of comment about your body, your personality, you tell them. You raise a voice, but tell them with respect because if you get angry, what will happen is they are going to understand that it's your weakness. There is a difference between showing anger and setting a boundary. Set a boundary without getting angry because an angry person is a weak person and we don't want to be weak, we want to come across very strong when we mention that, remember that. Differentiate between noise and signal. Focus only on actions that move you toward your goals, ignore distractions. Now this is something that I read about Elon Musk. This is something that he follows in his life and that is why he's probably 100x more efficient than most of us, most of normal people. Noise versus signal, noise to signal ratio you call it. So it says that there are things that push you towards your goals and those things are your signals. And rest everything is a noise. Okay? So learn to differentiate between signals and your noise, right? Anything that pushes you forward towards your goal is a signal and every day you have to choose to focus on those signals. Most urgent things are not important and most important things are not urgent. Calling up your best friend could be urgent for you right now, but it's not really important, you know, it can wait. Important, communication skills, developing your communication skills extremely important, but is it urgent? No, it's not. So you get the difference, right? Urgent things are not important, important things are not urgent. Learn to differentiate between the important and the urgent, focus on the important. Stop seeking validation in others. Oh my God, what a shortcoming. Most ordinary people are the ones who seek lots and lots of validation in others. It's such a big weakness, it's time to become extraordinary, stop seeking validation. The thing is that most of the times because we are not putting in a lot of good action into our goals, we are under confident. And that is why we seek validation from others. We want them to say, hey, you're doing well, because we are not sure. Because if you are sure, if you are sure, you're doing everything right, you're working hard, you're doing things the way they should be done, you will stop seeking validation. For instance, you don't need validation in the thought that your mom loves you. It's like a fact, you know it in every fiber of your being, you know that your mom loves you deeply. You don't need my validation for that. What will you need validation and in anything that you're not sure of? Let's say your name is Shilpa. Is Shilpa doing enough for her communication skills? Now Shilpa will seek validation in others. She's not sure. But if Ritika is working very hard on her communication skills, doing courses, talking to people, reading books, and everything that you need, watching good movies, good documentaries to learn stuff the way you should communicate. Then she will not look for validation because validation is fluff. It's not meaningful anymore for her because she's already doing enough and she knows it. If you want to be exceptional, you will not be accepted by average people, remember that. Most successful people, they do things differently and that is why they are successful, right? Most successful people, just think of anybody. And you're sure that this guy lives his or her day differently from most other people. And when they're doing something differently, the acceptance rate of their behavior will fall. They will not be liked and appreciated by most people. And they're okay with that. So you choose your group, your gang, where you want to belong. Point number six is quite simple, but quite meaningful. Eat smarter to think better. Now in my opinion, the happiest people I have seen in my life are the most good looking ones. You may disagree, but just look around. I'm not saying that every good looking person is happy, but every happy person and genuinely happy person is good looking. Most of the times. Why do I say that? See, happiness is not just a product of your surroundings, it's also something that you built upon. It's something that you create for yourself. You agree, right? You've seen enough to realize this, I'm sure. You know that that happiness is a product of how you feel, it's inbuilt, it's, it's from the inside and not from the outside all the time. Outside also contributes, I'm not denying that. Like if I will be sitting in Europe somewhere right now in a beautiful scenery or maybe in some beautiful Kerala resort, of course I'll feel differently, of course I'll feel happy.
[20:05]So surroundings do impact, I agree, but mostly is from inside, right? So what happy people are doing differently is that they are working on what they eat. Now this is my opinion, and you may choose to differ, you may choose to say no ma'am, it doesn't work that way, but I'm telling you it does, because I am somebody who's been working on what she eats for I don't know, some 5, 6, 7, 7, 8 years now. I'm very particular about what I eat. I take a lot and lot of protein every single day. I mean, of course, not 100 grams, it's too much, but yes, about 60 to 70 grams of protein every single day. So when you eat something that is good for your body, you feel light, okay? Your gut health is better. You're not burping all day. You feel light. I don't know, I don't bloat when I eat proper. My stomach stays inside. I feel more light, I feel more active, more agile and I think a lot has to do with what I eat. The moment I eat a big chunk of pizza, I don't know why, I don't know if you do feel this way or not, you don't really feel very happy about it. You feel like you've done something wrong to your body, at least that is my case. So even if I buy a pizza because sometimes I do, I love eating good food. Like I just went to a movie. I saw the movie alone. I went to PVR and I bought a pizza for myself and of course I knew I could not, I would not be able to eat the whole of it. So what I did was I bought the pizza, I wanted to have it. Margarita is my favorite, but then I did math. And you may think, ma'am, this is too much, this is not living life. A guy, it is living life. It's just my way of living life. I decided how many calories I do want to intake. I did the math. I calculated that I'm okay with 300 to 350 calories from this pizza. And that came to be about three pieces. I just ate three, I got the rest home. Rest, everybody else in my family ate that. Okay. So this is how I manage what I eat. I don't starve myself at all, but my diet is so planned, there are four or five things that I eat every day and I never miss those things. And I get about 50 grams of protein from all those four or five things. Now it's not about eating protein or eating good food. No, it's about feeling good from what you're eating. There's a very popular quotation by Socrates, it is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable. Lovely quotation, I think everybody must realize how nice and easy it is to live with lesser weight. I mean, only if the weight is not because of some health issue and if it is only because of overeating, you can take care of it and I'm sure you know it. It's just something that's too hard to do and that is why you've been avoiding for very long time. Do it in 2026. You will feel so good about yourself. Your mind will be healthier. Next is define your key habits. What do I mean by habits and defining the habits? I'll tell you a lot of times most of our day goes by doing things which are expected of us. There are things that are expected of us, like if you go to a job, if you have a job, you go to an office, that is expected of you that you will go to office. You will spend your 8, 9, 10 hours over there. There will be 5, 10 things that you'll have to do daily. There'll be some people you will have to talk to every day. So these are things that are expected of you, but your entire day cannot be only and only about things that you should be doing or things that are expected of you. I mean, what signal is going to your mind that you have no control whatsoever on your life. And that is why you panic, you are filled with anxiety, and you feel sad and left out, and as if nothing is working in your favor. I just want you to take a moment and realize every single day. See, every day is a unit of your year, right? Your year is filled with 365 units which are called 365 days. If every unit is defined by somebody else, of course you have no control over yourself. Of course, everything is handled by somebody else. Of course you will feel out of control and that is going to fill you with anxiety. So how do you do that? How do you control yourself? How do you make things happen for yourself and what do you change this year that things finally change for you? This can be done by defining some key habits. They can be very small, they don't have to be massive big ones. For example, a very small habit that I've already made a video on. It changed somebody's life. This person is very famous now, has written some bestsellers, widely popular and extremely rich. This guy started changing his life with one key habit, which was making his bed every single morning. It changed his life. Read about this person, I'm not lying. A small habit that I've started recently, I'll tell you about that. I've started walking 15 to 20 minutes to be precise, exact 20 minutes. Earlier it was 10 minutes. I started increasing it and now it has come to 20 minutes. I'm walking 20 minutes after every meal. Morning, lunch, dinner, all three times. And why am I doing that? Because I know, I've read about it. It lowers the sugar spike in your blood. To control that. I don't want to get sugar spikes for that reason, I've started this. Okay? So this is a small habit. You can have your own small habits so that you start feeling more controlled of your own life. Okay, maybe walking after a meal, maybe having a green tea every day. It's not about making a massive change. It's about doing those three, four, five things every day which give you the signal that you are in control of your life. And not everything is about others and not everything is in your boss's hands. Some things are in your hands, that is what I'm talking about. Okay, I can give you a few ideas. Maybe write a quotation every day, your thoughts in a diary, you can do that. Or maybe I will have, um, one ragi roti every week.
[26:47]If not every day, I know ragi roti is difficult to eat. I eat it and they are lovely to me. I, I find them very tasty, but yeah, those simple small things, you know, that I will pack my lunch on my own. Or I will have room temperature water every day. I will stop having cold water because I've heard cold water is not good for health, I'm not sure though. So these are little things. Any three things, four things, five things. The more the control you want over yourself, the more the number of habits. And be so, so, so rigid with them that they become your religion. Follow your habits like they are your religion. Do not rely on motivation. Motivation is not automatic. Motivation doesn't come. Rely on rituals, not motivation. Motivation is unreliable, systems create consistency. Build those rituals for yourself. I'm just telling you the most successful people's habits, things that most successful people do. I'll tell you a few of my own habits. I'm not putting myself in the most successful gang, no. I'm just telling you my own few habits. 20 minutes walk after every meal, that is one habit. Another habit is to go to bed at 12:00, I mean, I, we sleep off at 12:00 every single day. Okay, that is one habit. I read at least two to three pages of a book every day. It could be just maybe a small few paragraphs, but you know, just sort of a ritual. I love reading. I mean, I'm reading Anna Karenina these days by Leo Tolstoy, lovely, lovely novel. His first novel, a new habit. I have taken up this challenge to reduce weight. And I am declaring whatever I'm eating every single thing to ChatGPT every day. I'm on day 17 right now. And it praises me like anything. I love it. I have a fan in ChatGPT. I love the way I don't like calling it it. I like calling it her, she. So she's my best friend these days. Yes. Next one is pick three things that you want to get done this year. It could be about losing weight, it could be about quitting on junk food, it could be about maintaining relationships or growing your relationships with your parents. It could be about anything, developing a product, okay, developing a small morning breakfast ritual.
[29:16]Any three things that you want to do this year, pick those three things and get started on them. And I would love it if you can share in the comments, I would want to see your creativity there. Next is you can either have excuses or you can have success, you can't have both. You cannot have both. See, I go to gym and I see a lot of people are so indulgent in this habit of blaming something or the other about anything that's going wrong with them. They are not losing weight, somebody else is to blame. They are not getting married, somebody else is to blame. They are going through a breakup, somebody else is to blame. They are not getting a good job, somebody else's mistake. If everything, if every problem lies outside, that means every solution also lies outside. Then what is in your control? You have no control over any of your problems, man, that's such a sad situation to be in. Stop blaming others, take the blame. The more you can, the better. But that does not mean that you start putting yourself down, fogging yourself down and always criticizing yourself. No, that's not what I mean. I'm just talking about taking charge of your life. If my videos don't perform, I am to blame. I can do better. I can figure out a new strategy. I shouldn't get to blaming algorithm of YouTube or Instagram, this is the reason it's not performing. YouTube is to be blamed. No, no. It's not YouTube's fault. They are everybody is just doing what is best for them. I've got to figure out my own thing. Next is do not declare prematurely. See, people can't destroy what they don't know. A lot of people make this mistake. They declare and announce prematurely. You've just started working out and you declare to your entire gang, hey, I've started going to gym, man, I'm feeling so light and so comfy, you know. No, wrong attitude. Don't tell anyone, they will see it themselves. They will observe themselves when your body will show it. Do not tell people prematurely. See what happens is first of all, of course, Nazer like the end all that, but I'm not going to get into it. I am not, but I talk about is your dopamine release. When you declare to the world that, hey, I've started working out. What happens is you get an instant hit of dopamine in your brain and you feel very good about it. And then suddenly your motivation goes down. You don't, you're in four or five days, you lose that motivation. Why? Because everybody knows that you're working out. Now what is there to get out of it? Because the results that the body will show will come much, much, much later, right? That will not come instantly. Now that you've told everybody, now there is nothing more new to share with the world. Everything is done. You've already they've started praising you. They already feel great about it. What I feel is that you are doing things for others. You're not very loyal to yourself. See, if I'm working out for my benefit, for my own body, my health, I shouldn't be going around declaring to people that, hey, hey, hey, listen, listen, see, see, see. I'm working, I'm working out. Do you know I joined the gym? It's been five days. It's so silly. People who do that, most of the times, they are unable to carry on with their progress. This is my observation. They drop out too quickly. One small problem comes and they are out of the gym. You start to write a book and you tell everybody in your friend circle, hey, I'm writing a new book. You know, 20 pages written, the 21st page is going to be so hard. Don't do that to yourself. First, finish your book and then maybe then tell others. Or rather just publish it and then show it to them. Next is it's okay to be late, but it's not okay to not show up. You must show up. See, I understand, sometimes you don't feel like doing the same thing every day. I get it. It's hard. But the rule is is to not break the habit for two days in a row. Like you don't feel like going on a walk and you've been doing it for last 25 days. Okay. Good discipline, motivation. All right, action. You don't feel like doing it today. All right, don't go, it's okay. It's okay to be okay and tamper yourself sometimes, all right. What is not okay is to not go tomorrow again. You must go tomorrow on the walk. All right. Never drop out of a good habit for two days in a row. That is where there is a chance that the habit will drop. 80% of the success is just showing up. People who build big businesses, build big companies, these sharks you see on Shark Tank, these are not people who, who've seen success every day of their lives. No. Success comes very late and success comes at a point where you honestly have most of the times, you've stopped caring about it. You're just busy doing your work. You're just busy enjoying what you're doing and it comes and you're like, oh, oh wow, all right, everybody's praising you and clapping for you, like, suddenly you realize, oh, okay, I'm successful. That's the point. Next is generic. Read more. A person who does not read has no advantage over a person who cannot read. When you're reading all these amazing books because there are plenty of amazing literature out there, just get your hands on two or three good ones. Pick a science fiction, pick a good novel, a good story, a celebrated one, any genre you like. I love science fiction. The moment you get this habit, you pick this habit of reading. What happens is you're downloading the consciousness of the witty minds of the planet. These are these amazing people because when a book is hit, that means it already has this boat of confidence from plenty of people that the guy is intelligent who's written the book. And now what you do is you're downloading their consciousness. You're getting inside their head and seeing the world from their eyes. And that is why reading is so important. You will never know the power of reading till the time you actually start reading. And when I say reading, it does not mean that you read one page in 10 days. And then another page and another, in the next 10 days, no, you read every day, no matter you read just one page, but you read every day. It should be a habit and not something that happens at breaks. It shouldn't be sporadic. Next is to get one full body checkup at least once a year. Now I know I'm not a doctor, but I'm not suggesting something that you've never heard before. You've heard this. One body checkup every single year. You figure out all these little things like, you know, okay, my cholesterol is up by some three, four points. Or my sugar is up by a couple of thing, couple of decimals. So you get to know these little things and you can work upon those things. A lot of things that are probably going on in your body right now. Your immune system is already handling it and very well and that is why you do not know that something is going on inside. But there is a point where immune system might fall short and that is where your reports are going to help you. Because when you get a report, the next step is to go to a doctor and let him or her assess the report and tell you that this is something that you need to correct. Like all these little things, vitamin D deficiency and importance of vitamin D, I found out through my report. Doctor told me that vitamin D serves as a powerhouse for your entire body. Okay. It helps in several processes and vitamin D is something that 82% of Indians are deficient in. Chances if you're an Indian, chances are that you already deficient in vitamin D and you don't know that if you've never got it checked. Vitamin D, B12, these are common deficiencies in Indians. Little things, you know, you figure out through these reports. You probably may not be able to sleep well and the reason probably lies in just a bit of deficiency in magnesium and you do not know that. We keep thinking, oh, I'm too stressed and that is why this is happening to me. But probably the reason lies in science, you never know. Stop self-diagnosing. Another point is this year, this new year, you have to develop an ability to not react to outrage. Make this your superpower. I know it's hard, but imagine a scenario where you start laughing at the things that used to make you angry. Imagine the kind of power it brings along. I'm telling you, you win most of the battles when you smile and fight them rather than when you get angry and you're shouting and you show the weakest side of your personality, you lose those battles. You lose those arguments. It is best to develop a personality that is very hard to get out of calm. Okay, like still water, just try and be as still as you can. People will recognize that superpower in you and they will approach you and ask you, what is it you're doing differently? How are you so calm? How are you handling things so differently now? This is this aura that comes along with being calm. Nobody should have the remote control to your emotions. Keep that remote control in your hand. Next is curate your digital diet. We are filled with digital media, social media, and God knows what all.
[39:24]We're always looking at some screen, right? Your algorithm is your worldview, train it to show you growth and not garbage. Whatever you start to view more, the algorithm gets a signal and you're very aware of that now. I mean, earlier I was a creator, I probably knew more because I was working and dealing with algorithms, but now everybody knows. Nobody knows more than anybody else. Everybody knows how algorithms work. Everybody is aware. So you know, whatever you will consume more will be shown to you more, right? So start choosing the right kind of content pieces, like I have always felt that by just looking at somebody's feed, okay, you open their Instagram app and you see their feed, there's so much you can find out about them. Whether this person is into cars or into babies, or or is this person about to get married. There's so much they disclose through their feed. Like if you see my feed, oh, my phone is on. Otherwise I would have shown you. My feed is filled with babies. I love watching baby videos, watching science. There is this channel, space in nutshell, then I follow a few good news channels also. Although I'm not really much into news, but they bring interesting content of space and history and stuff. I'm really interested in history, science, astronomy, not astrology, astronomy. Okay, planets and stuff and suns and stuff. Okay. So these are the things that are mostly shown to me. Then once in a while, I do get some dance videos. Because they are too many on Instagram, I think. I'm not interested in watching people dance, but they're still shown. Anyway, so this was it, 15 points. Tell me which of these two or three hit you the hardest and other ones that you're going to be working on in 2026. I wish you the luck and the strength, courage to deal with it because it's not going to be hard. It's going to shatter you, sometimes kill you and stop you with all its power, but if you're strong enough, you will get out of it. It is the people who are most disciplined that succeed the most in life. You keep doing the things that you've been doing the way you were doing and you will keep getting the same results again and again and again. If you want to get something different, you've got to do things differently. That's it from my end. I'm signing off. Thank you very much for watching me till the end, for watching this video. I hope this video helps you, share it with somebody you care about and you feel can benefit from this video. I think the purpose of this video will be solved. To stay connected with me, subscribe to my channel and press the bell icon so that you don't miss an update. I feel so nice recording this one. Thank you. I wish you a great new year ahead. Okay, bye bye. Take care.
